The Art of Taking Space & Living Unapologetically

There’s so much magic in realizing that taking your space and owning your energy is not selfish — it’s essential. When people step out of your life, it rarely says anything about you. It speaks volumes about them.

And honestly? Their exit is just clearing the stage for the right ones to enter — the ones who know how to honor healthy boundaries, who show up fully in their masculine or feminine energy, who don’t flinch when their ego gets a little bruised. The strong, grounded souls who can lead, love, and truly be present.

Those are the people who see you exactly as you are, who aren’t threatened by your sensual nature or the woman you’re becoming. They’re the ones who crave your company, who treasure your creativity, who light up when you walk into the room.

It’s such a thrill to step out of your shell — to meet new people, to relish your own company, to dive into what you love, and honor your true self. Boundaries and authenticity should have always been the standard, and now they are.

So don’t flinch if some roll their eyes or whisper. Let them. They were never meant for you anyway. People will always talk, but you, darling, are one of a kind. Beautiful. Sexy. Intelligent. Kind. And here’s the secret — those who criticize? They crave exactly what you embody but are too afraid to claim it for themselves. That’s never been your burden to carry.

Value your time. Guard it. You don’t owe everyone your presence on demand. You are precious, your time is sacred. Take up the space you deserve. Ask for as much time as you need.

Adorn yourself well. Feel divine in your own skin. Keep it elegant, sophisticated, and unapologetically you. Move your body with intention — not halfway, but fully, fiercely. Your focus will sharpen, and your body will glow with gratitude.

And yes, slip into that short dress. Wear that gorgeous top with a daring neckline. Refuse to fade into gray in a society that thrives on dullness. Shine. Radiate. God knew exactly what He was doing when He created you — so why dim the light He gave you?

And remember: you don’t owe transparency to anyone. Keep parts of yourself tucked away. Be a little mysterious, a little elusive. Let them wonder. Let them lean in, but never give it all away.

Live. Laugh. Dance. Learn a new move, flirt with life, soak up joy, and most of all — don’t feel guilty about it. Drop the old worries, smile at your fears, and toss them into the background where they belong.

Feed your mind. A woman armed with knowledge is unstoppable. Confidence grows when wisdom runs deep — and you have plenty of both.

Challenge life. Take the risks. Don’t sit heavy with seriousness; it drags the spirit down. Wear that mischievous grin, carry that playful spark, because life was never meant to be endured — it was meant to be lived.

And above all, love yourself fiercely. You’ve walked through fire already, and you deserve oceans of love. Be your own loudest cheerleader, your most loyal fan. That’s what God wants for you — to feel joy, to delight in yourself, to bask in His kindness.

So get out there. Slip into that stunning new dress. Snap the photos. Say thank you for the brilliance of today. Let the worries slide off your shoulders. God delights in your happiness — He designed you to thrive, not to shrink. 🌹✨

Boundaries To Growth

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Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

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This is something I’ve learned the hard way. I didn’t have many friends as a child, and my parents encouraged me to go out and play with other kids and create new connections. As a child, I was pretty unique; I had short hair, dressed in sportswear, and stood out from the other girls.

The fact that I lived in a tiny village and that my mother’s relatives were not what society expected didn’t help either. What made me distinct was that I felt lonely and wanted to meet new people, and unfortunately, I would do anything to be near others.

I would still be in a place where people would talk badly in front of me, and make fun of me. I would accept that as normal because those were the friendships I was introduced to when I was small, there was no other example to refer to.

What my mother and family believed normal and sociable was a riddle for me, and it was also rather puzzling. They’d tell me to go out and play with the kids, and then when I made some new friends, they’d put up walls and tell me I couldn’t do this or that.

Things grew strange when it came to dating and meeting guys. When I saw other girls seeing boys in secret, my parents would warn me that it was not acceptable throughout adolescence and that those girls were not as nice as me.

When it came time for me to date and meet men, that would be another mystery. No system of rules informed me what to do or how to act. In short, I used to fall for bad guys who didn’t treat me well or show me any respect. I didn’t have many significant relationships, but the ones I had taught me a lot. As a result, I left behind many people who had harmed and disrespected me.

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder

If there was one thing I didn’t learn throughout my first few years of life, it was the need to set limits. The barriers that let you stand out while concealing your unique qualities. My first years of life weren’t comfortable and they taught me lessons I would carry until the end of life.

However, sometimes, when I meet new people, it’s easier to fall into the comfortable, people-pleasing mode and allow one or two things to slide by. As you can tell, this doesn’t work well and I am reminded again, that I shouldn’t water weeds that hinder my growth.

And truth be told, that also applies to the people I love, forgiveness is one thing, but when a pattern repeats there is no resolve in hoping that things will get better with time because they won’t. Disrespect is still disrespect, even if it comes from the people you love the most.

The reason I’m writing this post is because I made a decision. And that is to stop being influenced by the way the wind blows and people’s opinions. There is power in owning your place, and knowing your worth is essential.

Dailies #15

Last week, I was reading a poem that reminded me of the fine line between being attached and feeling hooked or being too much. The difference can be difficult to grasp at times, in my humble experience.

We live in a people world, and when we give attention to someone, especially someone close to us, that person, in my experience, tends to ask for more. And, if you’re like me, you’re willing to give it because God’s love is limitless, and we should be more like that.

The problem is that giving too much of yourself might lead you to problems, especially if you are an empath. Because of my closeness, I’ve been in situations as a child and adult when individuals I believed were friends tried to get rid of me by pushing me away, but God always protected me. 

Unfortunately, I never had meaningful friendships since I never encountered a genuine person with a heart as open and sensitive as mine. So, after many heartbreaks and deceptive situations, I decided to have more confidence in myself and kept going.

It hasn’t been easy, but I feel I have a lot to learn about setting firm limits in that department. Recognize that I am a kind person with a caring heart, and learn to safeguard it at all costs, even if it means that others might judge me for it.

Dailies #14

I was reading Dr. John Townsend and Henry Cloud’s book Boundaries in Marriage, and my favourite part was that God appreciates boundaries and that you are not wrong when establishing them.

Especially in marriage, when two souls promise to love and respect each other until death separates them, when they go on a journey without a set of defined rules, and when love is in bloom, and everything about the loved person is perfect.

The mistake we often make is starting a relationship with a hope that the other person will take responsibility for our growth and well-being. Unfortunately, that is not the case; we have a responsibility to God in heaven and to ourselves; after, everything else falls in line.

Growth isn’t comfortable; it’s painful, messy, and it takes time. You’re dealing with your darkest fears, and most vengeful demons. The unfortunate reality is that running away from them brings you closer. Most of the time, our partners can expose the unhealed parts of ourselves since that’s when we feel most at ease.

When this happens, a large number of people get a divorce. They’ll blame each other and make excuses, complain to friends and family about their behaviour, avoid discussions, and generally avoid mature inner work. They will protest that they do not want to change for anyone and that the other person has to comply.

The other partner usually hopes for things to work out, but if one partner has done the inner work and the other has not, things will not work. They will try and try until realizing that doing so isn’t adding value to their life and choose to move on.

Conclusion

Relationships and marriage are great blessings from God, and in order to get the most out of them, we must learn to set clear boundaries. It takes skill to maintain self-control while not controlling others or allowing you to be controlled by others.

We must work on ourselves first, then show up and help others; reacting fast and being mad won’t fix anything. It will just make you feel worse. The only thing we can ever control about other people is how we react to their actions.

Just like one desires to grow, so is the other; the two are a couple, but they are separate individuals because God created them to be so; they complete each other through their uniqueness.

Relationships, like two plants, cannot bloom in the same place, separated by a single millimetre. We need fresh air and room for growth, God’s sunrays to shower us with love, we need pure, nutrient-rich soul water that can only come from our partner.

If the proportions are off, and one gives more than the other, God is not there. I heard somewhere that if you tend to a plant for a week and it dies, you aren’t ready to commit. A man should be able to provide everything a woman’s heart desires – and the things she desires are fairly basic – but if he isn’t, this may not be the right man for her.

When you are near God, you know what to choose and how to react to situations beyond your control. You don’t become upset or frustrated because you realize that if this isn’t the right match for you, God will lead you to someone who is. Request discernment, be true to yourself, and trust the journey.