Publicat pe 11 ianuarie 2021
Maybe we can
Find a place to feel good
And we can treat people with kindness
Publicat pe 11 ianuarie 2021
I don’t know about you guys, but I can confess that 2020 has been a year of reflection and planning for me. I’ve been wishing so long for changes to come, and I’ve dreamed every single step of the future path. I used to have both pessimistic and optimistic feelings, but I’ve always had a happier outcome.
I was genuinely tired of just holding and watching life go by, I wanted to have a saying about my present and my future. I leaped into bigger aspirations, such as working for a bigger company, getting a respectable income, and being valued to wanting to learn more about blogging and developing my writing abilities.
I came to know that I attract what I think of, and with hard work and perseverance, I can make my dreams come true.
If last night I gave up my anxiety and doubt, today I got a positive response from the company that I work for. My contract has been re-established for a non-determined amount of time, and I will concentrate on my job and blogging after hours. I was surprised and delighted and thought things would work to my advantage.
To make it even more prosperous, I wanted to step up my blogging game and signed up for the WordPress Premium Account, taking advantage of the perks of this package. I’m new to this, and I’m continuing to learn step by step what it takes to be a successful blogger. I am prepared to give up my time and to provide my readers with better content.
I want to call 2021 the year of successive changes and significant decisions. I want to confront my hidden fears and my inner self and wishes. I plan to see the doctor for a routine check-up, step up in the dentist’s office, workout regularly, eat healthy and be brave in the face of unforeseen incidents and obstacles. Because I can do this, and much more.
I learned that I am the one who needs to make the changes in my life, and I can’t just stand and do nothing. I will complain and talk less, work more, read more.
I’m going to find the opportunity to be grateful to my good friends and family for loving and caring for me. I will cherish my time while respecting my interests and what I love to do.
I will go forward even if I am tired and don’t feel like it because doing a little bit is better than doing nothing. At the end of the day, success is not a large step, it’s small daily steps towards reaching the goal.
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Publicat pe 10 ianuarie 2021
I spoke to a friend of mine and tried to understand together what was going on in our lives, in the world. The year 2020 was tough because of the pandemic, the fears, and the obstacles we’ve experienced.
I recall I was terrified of losing my previous job in customer care when our project was coming to an end. I was so panicked that I didn’t know what the future would hold. However, in my confusion and anxiety, I managed to survive 2020 by working from home and even pursuing a better job. Despite my negative thoughts, I’ve somehow managed to add some optimism and perseverance as well.
During the quarantine and even after that, I’ve had my mind so cluttered with ‘Why’s’ and ‘How’s’ and I’ve been so scared of what might be and what’s going to happen tomorrow. The incredible thing I just learned was that I don’t need to be terrified, and I don’t need to doubt every single direction this life takes me. I already have someone to do that for me.
I remember being worried, asking from colleague to colleague, trying to find a solution to the problem I had, seeking an answer, and the answer arrived. It was shrouded in the clutter of ‘how’s’ and ‘why’s’ that was shielding it from me.
A good job has emerged in customer care, and I feel that somewhere inside of me, I liked assisting, and I wanted to serve customers all the way and I drew it to myself. The joy had been alive in me for a time, but somehow it got buried again in the most irritable clients and the Karen’s present out there.
I recall losing my enthusiasm for a while and attempting to find a reason for this uncertain present, trying again to understand something that was not to be known at that time, in the middle. But then I realized something, when things are foggy, and reality doesn’t make sense to keep trusting, to keep having faith.
Thinking magical thoughts
On a Wednesday, when I was working on my tickets and listening to some songs, I heard Harry’s hit, Golden. At the beginning, I was like, well, that sounds interesting, and then, after seeing this mad man’s video, smiling, running, and enjoying life with a big smile on his face, the questions came to my mind. Happiness, unknown happiness. Suddenly, I realized that this life is amazing, and even though it’s foggy now, and maybe it doesn’t make sense, there’s a future ahead, and better things are waiting for us.
Recently, I was reading Michelle Obama’s book, My Story, and I remember getting through a rough pain, as it brought me a previous suffering that changed my attitude and perception. I found myself crying while reading and listening to the music that I used to listen to in that difficult period. I was going to let go.
Today, I got a call from one of my relatives, giving me a solution on how to let this suffering go. I am more than appreciative of this and, honestly, can’t understand how this can happen and how the law of attraction works for my recovery and future.
Letting the negatives go
My contract with the new company that I started working in 2020 is almost over, and I don’t have a definite response yet. I no longer worry, I am not willing to mourn and wish for something that may never happen.
I will let God and the Universe lead me on my journey, for the time being, trust my abilities and what I’ve worked on until now. I will be happy and grateful every day, regardless of what it brings.
Life can be difficult, and most of the time we don’t have the answers to our questions. Yeah, some transitions are tough and can consume our time and passion, but don’t let them destroy your sparkle and continue to shine even when you don’t know the answers.
The Universe always has a new way of showing you the answers, different and greater than you would have expected, precisely when you feel like giving up. That’s not a coincidence, it’s all happening for a reason.
It’s mainly a matter of thinking and drawing positive things and people into your life.
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Publicat pe 2 ianuarie 2021
Publicat pe 2 ianuarie 2021
2020 brought changes to my life. I remember being so upset and depressed about this that I grabbed my laptop instinctively and decided to write a new article to vent my rage and frustration. I think the universe did not particularly enjoy this because my laptop got overheated and turned off before I could publish the article.
Since that moment, I’ve just been busy with work, house chores, and the Christmas holidays and had little time to submit this. However, I always thought busily how this would improve my life and what I can do to strengthen it, prove myself and take a different direction towards the future.
I’ve had time to reflect that I shouldn’t be concerned with people or circumstances and understand that things happen for a reason. To be furious, to point fingers and talk negatively about others, though they may have created any crisis, does nothing but aggravates matters.
Acknowledging truths and confronting thoughts
Often we choose to make decisions based on appearances, not facts, and as children, we believe that the truth is what we see, and that everyone else has a decent heart like ours, that what is promised will be fulfilled.
In these situations, we usually get a lesson for life when we sincerely trust and believe beyond hesitation. We should never stop fighting for ourselves and make the right choices, first for us and secondly for the ones we love. I wouldn’t say it’s a necessary narcissistic approach, more of a vital and necessary one.
It’s said that life is what happens while making plans. If we’ve learned something, we never need to be comfortable with anybody, not even our own family. We never know when a change of plans might occur, and our entire life will change.
But, to look at the bright side, change is inevitable in life, and we can’t run forever. Breaking out of the daily routine, familiar faces and places may be the right thing for progress, even if that means getting out of our comfort zone.
At the end of the day, we should look into our souls and see if we’re happy with ourselves and what we have realized so far. It’s okay if we’ve made mistakes and have to start it all again. This time we have got experience and a new set of skills that will help us to arise.
Publicat pe 20 decembrie 2020
Publicat pe 20 decembrie 2020
It’s an extremely busy time at work during the holiday season, as everyone wants to buy gifts for their loved ones, but unfortunately, there are accidents during this process. This is where we, the customer service team come in.
I spent my previous days working and reading, and I was caught up in so many assignments and activities that I didn’t even realize how overwhelming and exhausting it was for me.
Getting annoyed with little things, shouting at everything else around me that could make me distracted, and wanting to do more than I could. I wanted to go this extra mile to prove myself, to show what I’m capable of, and to improve, to be stronger.
One little thing I forgot about in this whole process was myself. I forgot to smile, to be happy with myself and my work, and wanted more; more numbers, more quality at work, it’s never been enough.
To some extent, I’ve grown bored of constantly doing the same thing and getting irritated, and I just decided to listen to some music when I was working, to de-tension myself.
Scrolling through YouTube’s varied music collection, I discovered Harry Style’s ‘Golden’ song. In the beginning, I was all right, that sounds interesting. But then, as I was working, I heard myself singing his lines. It wasn’t me at all and believe it or not, I got more positive and happy to help out customers.
Eventually, I took a break and wanted to watch his music video while I was at it and I loved it very much, it was like a breath of fresh air.
I got out of the stuffed apartment mentally, this place where I spent so many days during this pandemic, and now having to work from home. I have forgotten about my unhappy customers, about the numbers that are never enough, about quality and productivity.
I found myself running virtually on unfamiliar streets with this crazy guy, breathing fresh air, enjoying the sunset, and escaping the harsh routine. I got lost in his smile, and I just couldn’t realize why he’s so cheerful and carefree when I’m trapped in the flat, faking a happy fulfilled life.
It really makes me think about my past and my actions, and how I could have changed my life for the better if I had taken different decisions. Why am I not spending my golden years in a different place, and why am I continuing to hide from this wide world in a tiny town…
Eventually, I went back to work and reality, except this time with new ideas and more energized and feeling like I’ve experienced something new. Harry’s Style of looking at life.
At the end of the day, we’ve got to dare to be courageous, different. Even if it could mean being alone or hurt or ignored for a brief amount of time. People are always going to have something to tell about things and about us.
It’s about how we have decided to respond to these things and what makes us happy.
Publicat pe 3 decembrie 2020
During these pandemic days, it’s easy to become distressed. After work and the daily routine, you may sometimes find yourself getting lost in sad memories. It’s not like you wanted to go there, but it just sank in.
Finding yourself with so much time, and having no one around is very challenging. It lets you wonder about your life decisions and makes you doubt the present and the things you enjoy and care about.
Spending time with yourself can be frightening for someone who is constantly distracted, on the move, and multi-tasking. Moreover, you can stump on old wounds and options that appeared perfect in the past.
Observing them at the moment and noticing the consequences will change the situation, and in the end, only you can have a conclusive solution.
It’s time to quit the race and start doing something for yourself that makes you happy. It may be anything, even the slightest, purest expression to reward yourself. Make a cup of coffee in the morning, take a stroll around the countryside, enjoy the sunlight, dance in the snow.
Quit looking for appreciation from the outside and give yourself the pat on the back you deserve. Look in the mirror and say thank you for what you have accomplished so far, for the endless hours of effort and commitment, for the sacrifices that nobody knows except you.
Avoid doing everything for others and start worrying about yourself for only 30 minutes a day. Take a break from the daily routine and offer yourself a great experience.
Clear your thoughts from everyday activities, tasks, and problems. Avoid stressing over things that once made you happy and do them with fun, not in a hurry, only because they need to be finished. Don’t agglomerate yourself with more than you can achieve in a day, plan your program for your enjoyment and success.
Don’t let yourself be bored and spend time doing nothing. Set up new targets and ask yourself what is the next challenge you want to conquer and how you can improve. It’s always a place for the better! 🙂
Stay true to yourself and don’t hide your emotions. Learn to embrace and understand yourself, exactly as you are, cast away the masks, and be honest with you and the people around you. Those that are there for you will stay, and those who don’t remain, they weren’t meant to be there in the first place.
Once you understand these basic ideas, you will be able to discover new solutions, and sometimes problems can be worked out by themselves, there is no point in stressing. Learn to let them be, let them go, let God and the universe take care of them.
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Publicat pe 1 decembrie 2020
I don’t know what stopped me from writing for such a long time. It’s like a calling that emerges when I feel like it, when I’m hungry to remember what I’ve always loved.
There are days when I want to tear my soul off and burst into writing, and there are days when I want to be silent and fall into loneliness and sorrow. These are the days when writing is less achievable and when I want to get distracted with my present and work for the future.
Unfortunately for me, these days were like this, and to be truthful, because of duty, I did it all. I have forgotten my liking’s and only sunk into work and chores, as if it were ordinary and always so.
One thing I found was that when working from home, time seems to pass very quickly. I typically wake up in the morning, do some house chores and work with brief breaks until 5-6 PM. Then I go on with my chores until late, and when I finish, it’s too late, and I have to rest because I have to get up early for another round of routine tomorrow.
I don’t even know what makes me happy anymore at this point. I feel stuck in a repetitive game that keeps playing the same scenes and actors over and over again. I’m aware that all this is triggered more than ever by the pandemic and the fact that we have to be at home.
Sometimes I want to go back to the old every day, to enjoy the winter temperature, to feel my skin shivering, to see my colleagues and to participate in senseless dialogues, to laugh and have a nice time together without the dumb thought of an unknown virus, without barriers or fears.
I get to glance through the apartment window every day, and to be honest, it doesn’t feel the same way. I feel like a lot of things are missing, and I feel lonely, even though people are around me. I’m tired of Korean dramas and TV shows, I’ve even started reading, but I don’t feel like I can be there entirely.
It’s an emotional roller coaster, that you, dear reader, may or may not understand. If you know me well, you know that I usually am a happy, optimistic person with high future aspirations who is always encouraging people to have faith and confidence in tomorrow. The funny thing is, I don’t know if I have the strength to feel the same way and hide behind a happy mask.
This year can give a rough and depressing time for us all, and while it isn’t easy, we need to be positive and have the courage to move forward, even though it feels like an immense weight that causes us and our loved one’s agony and sorrow.
It’s also important to be grateful for what we have, for the people that love and support us, for a home, a good job, and even a meal. There are people out there that don’t have these gifts that seem basic to us.
At the end of the day, as Thomas Merton said, we do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What we need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.
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Publicat pe 18 noiembrie 2020
In every game there’s a coin which doesn’t care about itself… but it sets the game for all the other coins.