It took me a while to truly understand this, but one day it finally clicked. The lesson was never about loving so hard that you empty yourself. It wasn’t about giving more than you have just to feel worthy. It wasn’t about loving people simply because they exist—even when they don’t treat you right. And it certainly wasn’t about choosing someone who seems to “fit” your needs, even if your heart whispers otherwise.
Love isn’t meant to be one-sided. It’s meant to be mutual—an exchange of energy, care, and respect that feels balanced. If it drains you more than it fills you, it’s not love. Please don’t chase those who show no interest in you, or try to win over the coldest heart in the room just to prove you’re enough. You don’t deserve that weight. Even if you know deep down that their soul is good, their behavior still matters—and it’s okay to walk away when it doesn’t serve you.
The truth is, the lesson was always about choosing what helps you grow. Choosing the people who feel safe and warm, the ones who love you for who you are, not for how much effort you can pour into them. The ones who don’t feel like a constant uphill climb.
In the end, the lesson is YOU. Because when you love yourself deeply enough, you’ll see it clearly: watering souls that only take and never give back is not your calling. Some people are meant to stay only for a season, and that’s okay. And even if they remain in your life, you get to choose the distance that protects your heart and honors the beautiful creation God made you to be.
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