Dailies #20

During the storm, things could look grim. You may not know where to turn or which way to go. In real life, new opportunities may not always lead to optimism and enthusiasm.

Certain situations may suit you, while others may not. It’s tough to make a decision when you have so few options. However, if there is one thing I have learned, you do not have to lower yourself to please situations or people that are not right for you.

You are destined to accomplish greatness, which cannot be attained if you stomp in every situation that does not feel right. Today’s reminder: don’t feel guilty or insulted if things don’t go as you’ve hoped.

Those past lessons you’ve learned are excellent teachers, and you don’t need to repeat the same patterns only to emphasize the same point. As a result, if things didn’t go as planned today because you said „No, I don’t deserve this” and dared to fight for what you’re worth, applaud yourself and remember that better situations and greater people await you on the other side.

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.

Boundaries To Growth

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Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

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This is something I’ve learned the hard way. I didn’t have many friends as a child, and my parents encouraged me to go out and play with other kids and create new connections. As a child, I was pretty unique; I had short hair, dressed in sportswear, and stood out from the other girls.

The fact that I lived in a tiny village and that my mother’s relatives were not what society expected didn’t help either. What made me distinct was that I felt lonely and wanted to meet new people, and unfortunately, I would do anything to be near others.

I would still be in a place where people would talk badly in front of me, and make fun of me. I would accept that as normal because those were the friendships I was introduced to when I was small, there was no other example to refer to.

What my mother and family believed normal and sociable was a riddle for me, and it was also rather puzzling. They’d tell me to go out and play with the kids, and then when I made some new friends, they’d put up walls and tell me I couldn’t do this or that.

Things grew strange when it came to dating and meeting guys. When I saw other girls seeing boys in secret, my parents would warn me that it was not acceptable throughout adolescence and that those girls were not as nice as me.

When it came time for me to date and meet men, that would be another mystery. No system of rules informed me what to do or how to act. In short, I used to fall for bad guys who didn’t treat me well or show me any respect. I didn’t have many significant relationships, but the ones I had taught me a lot. As a result, I left behind many people who had harmed and disrespected me.

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder

If there was one thing I didn’t learn throughout my first few years of life, it was the need to set limits. The barriers that let you stand out while concealing your unique qualities. My first years of life weren’t comfortable and they taught me lessons I would carry until the end of life.

However, sometimes, when I meet new people, it’s easier to fall into the comfortable, people-pleasing mode and allow one or two things to slide by. As you can tell, this doesn’t work well and I am reminded again, that I shouldn’t water weeds that hinder my growth.

And truth be told, that also applies to the people I love, forgiveness is one thing, but when a pattern repeats there is no resolve in hoping that things will get better with time because they won’t. Disrespect is still disrespect, even if it comes from the people you love the most.

The reason I’m writing this post is because I made a decision. And that is to stop being influenced by the way the wind blows and people’s opinions. There is power in owning your place, and knowing your worth is essential.