There’s this strange feeling I’ve been having. Nothing makes sense, as if things aren’t in the right place. A rounded, dusted jigsaw piece that fits neatly into a bigger work of art.
At the same time, I’ve noticed changes. I’m no longer troubled by what hindered me in the past. I realized that how others respond was never my problem. I can only do my best and then turn away. Respect the mask they’ve placed on and allow them to exhibit nothing, or watch them struggle to show a self that never existed.
I’ve stayed long in prayer and concluded that the best thing you can do for someone who decides to ghost you is to leave them alone. It is natural for people to have emotions. When we arrive, they already have a whole art show set up, and we are the ones who want to add new colors to their already-finished paintings. They may allow us to paint some artistic pieces, but they will still see their emotions mirrored regardless of the color scheme we select.
So, let us be cautious in trying to fix the efforts of others. Give them room, and don’t try to budge if they need time to express their creativity. They’re analyzing, trying fresh angles, and thinking their hearts out. And, if you’ve done everything to bring them back and they’re still pushing, you may need to let them go.
Spending too much time figuring out answers to others’ puzzles leaves you behind, especially if you have to beg. Appreciate the boundaries they set, but have some dignity, and learn to respect yourself. Choose to live your life the way God meant it for you in the first place, as the creator of your own artwork.
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