We are caught in the midst of a wave of low, negative energy. We are tested at work and in our personal relationships, and it is obvious everywhere, including on WordPress. I’ve also seen a lot of negative and depressing posts from my fellow bloggers.
That harsh energy permeates everything around us. It’s like an infection that wreaks havoc on our feelings and then moves to our thoughts, causing us to think negatively and spread it around us like a disease.
Stormy days
I’ve had to cope with challenging situations and trauma. Adversity not only makes you wiser and more mature, but it also makes you more sensitive. People in your life can promote insecurity and keep you stuck in a cycle of trauma.
I didn’t know how to handle that and stop allowing these people into my personal space because I love them. The experts advise you to set boundaries and be confident, but it doesn’t always work. Just when you think you love those special people, they stroll in with dirty shoes and ruin everything beautiful you worked so hard to build.
When they feel they’ve made another mistake, they ask questions, act like angels, and force you to divulge everything that can make you blame them and rethink your decision. Sometimes that doesn’t work, and you’re exhausted on the inside.
Weary of defending your actions, of them making you feel bad about yourself because you acknowledge their shortcomings, and of moving on. When you add up all the things that happen outside of those relationships it gets worse.
The way out is through
It’s easy to become emotionally involved, yet on the other end of the spectrum, being rational is the way out. We are creatures of habit, and saying what we think comes easy, but it isn’t always the best way out. Arguing, hurling insults, and continuously defending and blaming others will not solve the problem.
I can’t count how many long mental conversations I had, how many times I won, and how many times I wept. The only time things improved was when I bowed my knees in prayer and asked Jesus to help me. I told Him I was tired of trying, of patching things up and carrying the burdens of others.
His answer was simple. The only way out is through. Yes, self-help books may help you gain perspective and broaden your horizons, but we can’t do it all on our own; we weren’t created that way, which is why we have a Creator. We must go through everything. The tears, the hurts, and the frightening moments; for they all have a purpose, and those sharpened edges won’t soften on their own. We’re growing as a result, and the movement we’re afraid of is necessary.
In that process, read your Bible and grow in faith:
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.
It is important to remember that we are not expected to do anything. We shall be delivered the instant we surrender our cross and allow Jesus to bear it.
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