Saturday funeral

If you attend funerals long enough, one after another you get to understand that they all have the same structures and details, more or less depending on the tradition and customs.

People from all the places coming and leaving to visit for the last time a person that once used to be someone great, someone, of value. They all cry and appear affected in the front of the harsh reality that stole another person from this earth.

But the person does not react in any way, as the soul is long gone, leaving the cold, rough body behind without any expression. You get to see the empty body, the clothes, the house and every single thing that he left behind.

Only the sky is turbid, as the soul is feeling sorry for leaving the place where he was born, where he was raised, where he learned to love and at the end, where he died. The wind is angry and the degrees decrease in the thermometer.

The road to the church is long enough to make you feel the cold weather as the cold embraces you all over. The quick stops, the priest’s prayers and his last bridges on this world are all a part of the last ritual.

At the end after long-awaited prayers, tears and the last goodbye, we arrive at the last place, delivering the person to the place we will all go, in a wooden coffin becoming one-off with the earth.

The irony is that no matter how much that person struggled in life he did not take anything material with him. All he had was the clothes on him and a wooden cross that will become in time nothing.

The sadness, sorrow, and tears are for the moment, and they don’t last forever. As people are meant to move on and take care of their souls, paying attention to the cross that they have to bear, being focused on their sins and their short future.

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For life is just a journey and we are only passengers. We remain with the good deeds done over this life, with the smiles we offered, with the kind words spoken. Make sure you will fill your bucket with the right „things” because, at the end of the journey, the material things disappear.

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First post of 2020

Good morning, dear readers! Or rather, a happy new year, now that we have spent the first hours of the new year. 2020 has arrived quickly in my case, without too much fuss or preparation.

After a few days of visits to parents, relatives and acquaintances, events and cooking and cleaning sessions at home I can honestly declare that I feel tired. Especially since I started work on Monday, which adds to the fatigue and stress.

I managed to fall asleep a few minutes before the new year, at 10:40 PM overwhelmed by too many tasks and a terrible cold. However, my loved ones woke me up exactly a few minutes before the new year.

If in 2019 I had many questions and I was lost in thoughts and situations, 2020 is different, more secure. I started the new year with thoughts of peace. I have a beautiful family, ready to help at every moment, people who love me and a decent job.

I just wish that the year 2020 will be half as good as it was the previous year. Although 2019 has been tougher and more difficult, I can admit that I managed to develop and learn things that I didn’t even dream of.

Conclusions

The year 2020 is ahead of us and we are waiting to write another new chapter in our lives, and the best way to do this is by setting goals.

Time is limited and it does not make sense to waste it with insignificant details from other people’s lives. It is not necessary to pay so much attention to the malicious comments of those around us, lowering our courage and advantage. It is important to find the power to follow our heart and intuition by accomplishing what we aim for.

And if the year 2019 has been a difficult year, let us think that each end has a different beginning, in a continuous cycle. We still have 365 days to face our fears and overcome our disabilities, becoming a better version of us.

Changes are a part of this life, sometimes we have pain, sometimes beautiful things. Often life surprises us and we have both at the same time.

Change can bring fear, but the most frightening thing can be to let fear stop us from growing, evolving and progressing.

And if we make mistakes along the way, that’s fine. Because through mistakes we learn new things, trying new possibilities, working hard and practically changing ourselves and the world that we live in. We do new things, and more importantly we do something that matters.

New experiences and developments will await us in 2020. Let’s enjoy the blessings of the past and accept the promise of the future.

Happy New Year!

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Furie, partea I/Fury, part One

Sunt momente in viata noastra cand pur si simplu ne enervam, reactionand negativ la lucruri neplacute ce apar neasteptat in viata noastra.

Nu stiu alte persoane cum sunt, insa eu, de foarte multe ori tind sa rabufnesc in fata unor situatii iritante. Ma exprim printr-un comportament rece si ostil, fara sa ascult ceea ce mi se relateaza cu lux de amanunte, fara sa analizez ceea ce se intampla cu adevarat.

De foarte multe ori, acest lucru mi se intampla cu familia, cu cei dragi. Sunt constienta ca ar trebui sa ascult mai mult, sa incerc sa inteleg si sa caut o solutie impreuna cu ei, dar uneori acest lucru mi se pare imposibil de realizat.

Familia este liantul suprem al vietii si relatia cu aceste persoane este extrem de importanta. In ciuda insemnatatii acestui nucleu, uneori atitudinea si alegerile persoanelor ce fac parte din ea, ne fac de multe ori sa punem sub semnul intrebarii sentimentele noastre pentru ei.

Adesea incapatinarea, egoismul si indignarea ne pun la incercare in situatii dificile capacitatea de perceptie si afectiunea noastra pentru persoanele iubite.

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Voi cum reactionati in asemenea situatii? Cum va exprimati furia si cum reusiti sa canalizati energiile negative in afara sferei de familie?

English version

There are moments in our lives when we simply annoy, reacting negatively to the unpleasant things that appear unexpectedly in our lives.

I do not know other people as they are, but I, many times, tend to rage against irritating situations. I express myself through a cold and hostile behavior without listening to what I am referring to with great detail without looking at what really happens.

This is often the case with my family, my dear ones. I am aware that I should listen to more, try to understand and seek a solution with them, but sometimes this seems impossible to achieve.

Family is the ultimate bond of life and the relationship with these people is extremely important. Despite the importance of this core, sometimes the attitude and the choices of the people who make it, often make us question our feelings for them.

Often stubbornnes, selfishness and indignation put us in difficult situations to test our ability to perceive and our affection for loved ones.

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How do you react in such situations? How do you express your anger and how do you channel negative energies out of the family sphere?

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Thought of the day 6#

Do you know those days? When you smile and joke with those around you, but inside is something of an endless sadness?

Sometimes I can not explain it. I feel my saturated and disappointed heart, I want something today, but I do not know why I have the feeling that it does not belong to me; or at least it’s mine though it should not be.

I long after smiles, emotions and affection, but I do not understand why … that someone should be my unlimited and infinite, there are moments, events spent together and years of coexistence.

I give everything I have, I give my heart on this person’s tray and I want it next to me 24 out of 24. For me time has not gone, it has flourished, added moments and emotions, feelings and memories.

Only if that person next to me would think the same … I see him every day, staring at a certain „fairy”, like looking for another one. Initially, I did not notice it, drawing attention to other things, looking for a thread of hope and trust, believing in what once united us.

Irrelevant, uninteresting. He is attentive elsewhere, distracted. And me? I’m lost somewhere in the middle, I just require little attention and a little affection, just a little involvement.

I’m not like him, I’m not looking for other princes, I’ve already found the king. It’s just he’s embarrassed, impregnated in strangers, black or blonde ones, one seemingly more captivating than another.

Today I chose to leave the guard down, not to get involved. I’ve come to think of what it would be if …. I saw independence, with 2 jobs, more attentive to one’s own person and personal development.

I do not know why, but when they adopt this „position” they draw people to me. Curious, intriguing and conquering people try to hurt me with their personality, try to be close to me.

And me? I’m no longer fascinated by this kind of thing. My heart is fragile and mature, she received her love of the outside, now she wants family and involvement. My heart wants him, her king …. Let’s hope, however, that it will come back from this whirlwind of youth and realize what’s next to it until it’s too late.

Atitudinea la locul de munca/ Attitude at work

Jobul nostru, indiferent de domeniul si zona studiata, mereu va fi pe primul loc deoarece ne ofera posibilitatea de a ne dezvolta si de a creste intr-un mediu productiv alaturi de oameni calificati.

Un lucru important de care trebuie sa tinem cont este atitudinea la locul de munca.

Persoanele cu care impartim in fiecare zi task-urile oferite, colegii si sefii sunt foarte importanti. In principal pentru ca ei reprezinta mediul de lucru, ei sunt cei care ne intampina in fiecare zi si cei care ne ghideaza in drumul profesional.

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Sfaturi si idei

Fie ca esti un angajat nou sau chiar unul vechi lucrul esential ce nu trebuie sa lipseasca este respectul. Nu iti cad gradele daca saluti cu consideratie managerul sau sefa, si in nici un caz n-o sa ti le castigi daca ramai tacut si nepoliticos.

De foarte multe ori suntem certati sau ni se atrage atentia cand gresim un anumit task. Singurul lucru demn de realizat este sa ne acceptam greseala si sa remediem eroarea. Stiu, uneori este mai usor sa ridici glasul si sa dai vina pe altcineva, dar e mai bine sa fii responsabil; mai mult decat atat daca dai vina pe altii, in viitor ti se va intoarce, inmiit chiar.

In cazul in care realizezi ca nu te impaci bine cu colegii si aveti mentalitati diferite atunci verifica mai intai sa vezi daca nu este ceva in neregula cu tine. Dupa ce ai facut asta, incearca sa intelegi si comportamentul colegului/colegei si daca nici asa nu gasesti o solutie fii pur si simplu nonsalant/a.

(DEX – NONȘALÁNT adj. v. degajat, dezinvolt, firesc, natural, neafectat, neartificial, necăutat, neprefăcut)

Fii sincer/a si neprefacuta. Lumea iubeste acest lucru si cu siguranta nimeni nu iubeste un „kiss ass”.

Incearca sa nu iti expui viata personala, sentimentele, emotiile si trairile. Sunt anumite lucruri personale ce trebuie mentinute pentru sine, pentru cei dragi si familie. De foarte multe ori persoanele de la serviciu vor incerca sa gaseasca din ceea ce relatezi tu un subiect de barfa, sa comenteze rautacios situatia, desi in fata iti vor vorbi frumos.

Indiferent de situatie, fii pozitiv/a. Alunga pesimismul si gandeste-te ca exista o solutie la problema ta, fiind pesimist este posibil sa adaugi un grad de dificultate situatiei si te vei inneca si in mai multa nesiguranta. Fii stapan/a pe tine si trateaza chestiunea cu curaj!

Pesimismul, lipsa increderii de sine si dezorganizarea pot fi cei mai mari dusmani ai tai! – Daca gandesti negativ, daca te plangi ca nu vei putea duce la bun sfarsit task-ul si esti dezorganizat/a sigur vei esua! Fii optimist/a, ai incredere in tine si fii organizat/a!

Pune-ti ordine in ganduri si in actiuni. Prima mea sarcina de la birou a fost sa clasific si sa ordonez documente. Nu numai ca te ajuta in a fi ordonat/a pe viitor dar iti este si mai usor sa le gasesti si sa le intelegi!

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Concluzii personale

Locul de munca poate implica persoane cu comportamente si atitudini diferite. Cu siguranta, in toate acea mare de lume va exista o fiinta pe care nu o vei suferi, una care nu se incadreaza in gusturile tale si care te va supune la incercari. De fapt, toti acesti oameni, fie ca discutam despre sefi care tot timpul ne vor fi superiori si care tot timpul vor gasi o strategema prin a ne arata inferiori lor sau acei colegi ce ne vor pune bete in roate sunt de fapt adevarati dascali ce ne vor „instrui” pe parcursul drumului profesional.

Desi ai fost inundat/a de o suvoaie de energii negative, si au fost multi oameni osteniti si iritati de jobul prea agasant, care si-au lasat pur si simplu amprenta murdara pe psihicul tau ia un burete si sterge. Nu lasa sa se adune furia si iritarea in tine, cei de acasa nu au absolut nici o vina ca tu ai avut o zi incarcata si neagra. Maine probabil colegii tai vor uita ce s-a petrecut la serviciu si vor zambi dar cei de acasa vor tine minte si vei acumula sentimente negative.

La sfarsitul zilei, tot ceea ce conteaza este ceea ce am reusit sa facem in acea zi. Daca, este ora 5 sau stai peste program si este ora 9, inchide ochii si multumeste-i Domnului pentru energia ce ti-a dat-o sa finalizezi atatea task-uri si ca ai un loc de munca si o familie frumoasa, ai pentru ce lupta si munci.

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English version

Our job, regardless of the field and the studied area, will always occupy the first place because it offers us the opportunity to develop and grow in a productive environment with qualified people.

One important thing to keep in mind is attitude at work.

The people with whom we share our daily tasks, colleagues and bosses are very important. Mainly because they represent the working environment, they are the ones who welcome us every day and those who guide us on the professional road.

Tips and Ideas

Whether you are a new or an old employee, the essential thing you should not miss is respect. Your grades won’t fall if you salute the boss manager or manager, and you will not win it if you remain silent and rude.

We are often arguing or being told if we make mistakes during a certain task. The only thing to do is to accept the mistake and fix the error. I know, sometimes it’s easier to raise your voice and blame someone else, but it’s better to be responsible; even more, if you blame others, in the future you will be blamed thousandfold.

If you realize that you are not coping well with your colleagues and having different mentalities, then first check to see if there is something wrong with you. Once you’ve done this, try to understand the behavior of your colleague and if you can not find a solution, just be nonsensical.

(DEX – Nonsensical adjunct v. Degenerate, desinvolt, natural, natural, unaffected, unnatural, untouched)

Be honest and unforgettable. The world loves this and certainly nobody loves a „kiss ass”.

Try not to expose your personal life, feelings, emotions, and feelings. There are certain personal things that need to be kept for oneself, for loved ones and family. Many times, people at work will try to find out what you’re telling a gossip topic, to comment badly on the situation, although they will speak nice in front of you.

Whatever the situation, be positive. Eliminate pessimism and think that there is a solution to your problem, being pessimistic is likely to add a degree of difficulty to the situation and will drown you in more uncertainty. Be your master and treat the matter with courage!

Pessimism, lack of self-confidence and disorganization can be your greatest enemies! – If you think negatively, if you complain that you will not be able to complete the task and you are disorganized / you will surely fail! Be optimistic, have trust in yourself and be organized!

Put order in your thoughts and actions. My first job in the office was to classify and order documents. Not only does it help you to be ordered in the future but it’s even easier to find and understand them!

Personal Conclusions

Work may involve people with different behaviors and attitudes. Surely, in all that great world there will be a being that you will not suffer, one that does not fit your tastes and will make you try harder. In fact, all of these people, whether we are talking about bosses who will always be superior to us and who will always find a way to show us we are inferior to them or those colleagues who will put „sticks in the wheel” are actually real teachers which will „train” along the professional road.

Eventhough you were flooded by a swarm of negative energies, and there were many people overworked and irritated by the job too aggressive, who simply left the dirty footprint on your psyche take a sponge and wipe it off. Do not let the rage and irritation gather in you, the family have no blame for having a busy day and a black one. Tomorrow, your colleagues will probably forget what happened at work and they will smile, but those who are at home will remember and get negative feelings.

At the end of the day, everything that matters is what we managed to do that day. If it’s 5 o’clock, or if you’re out of schedule and it’s 9 o’clock, close your eyes and thank God for the energy you gave her to complete so many tasks and that you have a job and a beautiful family, for which you can struggle and work.