Tu esti prost?/ Are you stupid?

In rutina cotidiana ascult in fiecare zi opinii, pareri diverse cu voia si fara voia mea. Uneori fiind prinsa intr-o discutie random, alteori auzind fara sa vreau chiar, din jurul meu, convingeri si idei bolnave.

Una dintre cele mai des intalnite idei este urmatoarea: „E prost/ proasta!”

Dar ce este totusi cuvantul „prost” si ce insemnatate are?

Conform dex, PROST, PROÁSTĂ, proști, proaste, adj., s. m. și f. 1. Adj., s. m. și f. (Om) lipsit de inteligență, fără judecată, fără minte; nătărău, nerod, tont, prostănac. (Om) care se încrede ușor; (om) naiv, credul. (Persoană) fără știință de carte; (om) neînvățat, ignorant.

In ultima vreme am tot analizat aceste comportamente si evaluari ale comportamentelor oamenilor venite din partea unor persoane complet necunoscute.

Sa poti categoriza o persoana drept prost/proasta nu este dificil, in fapt, este chiar extrem de usor. In special daca nu ai cunostinta de cauza si vrei sa te poti afla in treaba, vorbind fara noima, pentru a atrage atentia celor din jurul tau.

Cum sa iti dai seama cand o persoana chiar nu este proasta

In primul rand, nu este demn sa categorizezi o persoana drept proasta fara a avea cunostinta de cauza. Sa va dau spre exemplu cateva situatii intalnite:

  1. Cel mai des intalnit caz este acela in care un om nu stie despre ce vorbeste, cand este slab informat. In cadrul acestei situatii, oamenii nu sunt documentati despre problema ce are loc in acel moment, insa isi doresc sa o rezolve cat mai rapid si cat mai eficient posibil.
  2. Un angajat greseste o sarcina de serviciu ce pare simpla in opinia colegilor sai. Astfel, fiind automat introdus in categoria despre care discutam azi, prost/proasta.
  3. O persoana educata in domeniu isi sfatuieste subalternii sa incerce o solutie mai putin ortodoxa pentru o chestiune nemaintalnita pana in prezent.
  4. O persoana este captiva mrejele unei noi sarcini de serviciu si cere sfatul unei persoane mai avansate. Problema este simpla, insa persoana in cauza nu realizeaza pe moment si este din nou, introdusa in clasa prost/proasta.
  5. Un om isi doreste sa aleaga o anumite cale in viata, fiind incapatinat si dorindu-si cu ardoare sa mearga pe acel drum.
  6. De asemenea, clipele in care persoanele nu isi doresc sa se supuna in fata persoanelor mature si selecteaza optiunea cea mai grea – de a face lucrurile conform dorintelor personale.
  7. Atunci cand o persoana nu se incadreaza in categoriile sociale atat de apreciate si incurajate in prezent, atunci cand o persoana este diferita si frumoasa in felul ei/lui.

Concluzii si idei personale

Situatiile descrise mai sus sunt intalnite in viata de zi cu zi, de mine, si de tine, tu cel care ma citesti astazi. Am enumerat doar cateva dintre intamplarile care au loc in fiecare zi, insa realitatea este mult mai vasta.

Nimeni nu s-a nascut invatat si nimeni nu este perfect 100%. Suntem oameni si defectele, greselile ne definesc in fiecare zi, intr-un mod sau altul. La sfarsitul zilei, trebuie sa fim destul de mari incat sa ne recunoastem greselile, suficient de destepti ca sa invatam din ele si indeajuns de tari sa le putem indrepta.

Persoana la care indrepti degetul astazi si o categorizezi drept proasta poti fi chiar tu, intr-un anumit moment al vietii tale, intr-o anume situatie. De fapt, te privesti in oglinda ochilor ceiluilalt, indreptandu-ti frustrarile si deceptiile inalnite in viata aceasta.

Si daca te astepti la prea multe din partea celor din jurul tau, sa nu o mai faci. Esti criticat cand gresesti si barfit cand reusesti. Asadar, singura ta directie si singurul tau scop ar trebui sa fie succesul.

English version

In my everyday routine I listen to opinions every day, different opinions and without my will. Sometimes I end up being caught in a random conversation, sometimes hearing without even wanting around me, sick beliefs and ideas.

        One of the most common ideas is: „He/She is stupid!”

                                    But what does the word „stupid”  really mean?

According to dex, stupid, poor, (Man) lacking intelligence, without judgment, without mind; stupid who trusts easily; (human) naive, I think. (Person) without book science; (man) untrained, ignorant.

Lately, I have also analyzed these behaviors and assessments of people’s behaviors from strangers.
To categorize a person as stupid is not difficult, in fact, it is even extremely easy. Especially if you are unfamiliar and want to find yourself in the business, speaking out of your mind, to attract the attention of those around you.

                               How to figure out when a person is really not stupid

First of all, it is not worthy to categorize a bad person without being aware of it. Let’s give you some examples:

– The most common case is where a man does not know what he is talking about when he is poorly informed. In this situation, people are not documented about the problem that is going on at the time, but they want to solve it as quickly and efficiently as possible.
– An employee mistakes a service task that seems simple in the opinion of his colleagues. Thus, being automatically introduced into the category we are discussing today, dumb / stupid.
–  A person educated in the field advises subordinates to try a less orthodox solution to a matter that has not yet been addressed.
– A person captures the nets of a new task and asks for a more advanced person’s advice. The problem is simple, but the person in question does not realize the moment and is again introduced into the bad / stupid class.
–  A man wants to choose a certain way in life, being stubborn and wishing to go along that road.
–  Also, the moments when people do not want to obey in front of mature people and select the hardest option – to do things according to your personal wishes.
– When a person does not fit in so well-appreciated and encouraged social categories, when a person is different and beautiful in her/his own way.

Conclusions and personal ideas

The situations described above are met in everyday life, by myself, and by you, you who read me today. I listed just a few of the happenings that occur every day, but the reality is much larger.

No one was born smart and no one is 100% perfect. We are people and defects, mistakes define us every day, one way or the other. At the end of the day, we have to be big enough to recognize our mistakes, smart enough to learn from them, and strong enough to straighten them out.

The person that you point your finger today and categorize it as stupid can be yourself, at some point in your life, in a certain situation. In fact, you look in the mirror of the oter persons’s eyes, directing your frustrations and deceptions from this life.

And if you expect too much from those around you, do not do it anymore. You are criticized when you are wrong and gossiped when you succeed. So, your only direction and your only goal in life must be success.

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