Raspunsuri, in lumea mea/ Answers, in my world

Sunt 7 zile de cand nu am mai scris nimic. 7 zile in care timpul a fost crud, el m-a uitat printre oameni angosi si sute de hartii scrise inutil. In ultimele zile m-am tot intrebat care este scopul meu in aceasta lume, pe ce carari voi merge, si pana la urma care este rolul acestei calatorii.

Din pacate, am mai esuat odata in gasirea unui scop, a unui job. Acest lucru se intampla a doua oara de la absolvire, insa de data aceasta cu mai putina durere in suflet. Tind sa cred ca jobul perfect se afla la sute de km departare, si eu sunt tot mai departe de gasirea acestuia.

In cadrul acestui job am intalnit din nou personalitati diferite, caractere conturate de emotii pozitive dar si negative. Am descoperit noi modalitati de a privi viata si de a trata persoane in viata de zi cu zi.

Am observat cat este de dificil sa lucrezi direct cu oamenii, sa implementezi un sistem controlat 100% cu proceduri si scheme ce nu vor fi niciodata respectate integral de angajatii in subordine.

Sa iti doresti din tot sufletul sa faci o diferenta, sa incerci imposibilul uneori, si cel mai dureros in opinia mea, sa nu fii perceput corect de catre superiori. Sa fii privit de jos, cu indignare si repulsie, sa fii considerat un neadaptat la cerintele si asteptarile conducerii.

Am auzit multe opinii cu privire la activitatea mea. Mi s-a spus ca sunt isteata si am inteles in cateva zile ce altii au invatat in saptamani; am crezut in progres si am continuat, insa ultimul feedback m-a lasat rece si indiferenta.

Pe de o parte mi s-a spus ca trebuie sa aplic o severitate fara margini si un caracter de gheata, iar pe de alta ca ar trebui sa fiu mai prietenoasa si deschisa. Ca nu inteleg procedurile si ca nu sunt capabila de progres. Unii s-au legat de maturitatea mea si au considerat-o absenta, in timp ce altii mi-au spus ca eu traiesc in lumea mea.

Dar cum pot eu schimba ce alti 10 inaintea mea nu au reusit?! … . Intr-un mediu stresant si rece din care un angajat vine astazi si altul pleaca maine, nu exista oameni multumiti, asadar nu exista progres.

Am ales sa opresc aici aceasta experienta deoarece m-am simtit bulversata si nu mi-am gasit linistea. Simteam ca nu am raspunsuri vitale si ca ma invarteam intr-un cerc vicios, plin de nesiguranta si incertitudine.

La finalul zilei, important este insemnatatea a ceea ce desfasori 8/12 h pe zi, sentimentul de gratitudine pe care ti-l confera. Feedbackul pozitiv alaturi de zambete de incurajare aduc si ele ganduri pozitive ce duc la avansare.

Daca in lumea lor sunt inconjurata de tipete, cuvinte amare spuse la suparare si frustrari atunci prefer sa plec in lumea mea, unde locul de munca inseamna multumirea fata de activitatea pe care o desfasor, de oamenii cu care lucrez si de mediu, oriunde ar fi ea.

                                                                     English version

It’s been 7 days since I did not write anything. 7 days when the time was cruel, locked among angry people and hundreds of unnecessary paper. In the last few days I have been wondering what my purpose in this world is, what paths I will go, and after all, what is the role of this journey.

Unfortunately, I failed once again to find a job. This is the second time since graduation, but this time with less pain in the soul. I tend to think the perfect job is hundreds of miles away, and I’m farther from finding it.

In this job I again met different personalities, characters outlined by positive and negative emotions. We have discovered new ways to look at life and treat people in everyday life.

I have noticed how difficult it is to work directly with people, to implement a 100% controlled system with procedures and schemes that will never be fully met by subordinate employees.

I wanted to make a difference, to try the impossible at times, and most painfully in my opinion, not to be correctly perceived by the superiors. To be seen from below, with indignation and repulsion, to be considered as inadequate to the requirements and expectations of leadership.

I have heard many opinions about my work. I was told I was smart and understood in a few days what others had learned in weeks; I believed in progress and continued, but the last feedback left me cold and indifferent.

On the one hand, I was told I had to apply a borderlessness and an ice character, and on the other hand I should be more friendly and open. That I do not understand the procedures and I’m not capable of progress. Some have linked to my maturity and considered it absent, while others have told me that I live in my world.

But how can I change what the other 10 before me did not succeed ?! …. In a stressful and cold environment where one employee comes today and another leaves tomorrow, there are no satisfied people, there is no progress.

I chose to stop this experience here because I felt upset and I did not find peace. I felt that I had no vital answers and that I was turning in a vicious circle, full of uncertainty and doubt.

At the end of the day, it is importance of what you do 8/12 hours a day, the feeling of gratitude it gives you. Positive feedback with encouraging smiles also brings positive thoughts that lead to advancement.

If in their world I’m surrounded by screaming, bitter words said to sadness and frustration then I prefer to go into my world, where I am content about the place that I work in, the people I work with and the environment, wherever that place is.

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Atitudinea la locul de munca/ Attitude at work

Jobul nostru, indiferent de domeniul si zona studiata, mereu va fi pe primul loc deoarece ne ofera posibilitatea de a ne dezvolta si de a creste intr-un mediu productiv alaturi de oameni calificati.

Un lucru important de care trebuie sa tinem cont este atitudinea la locul de munca.

Persoanele cu care impartim in fiecare zi task-urile oferite, colegii si sefii sunt foarte importanti. In principal pentru ca ei reprezinta mediul de lucru, ei sunt cei care ne intampina in fiecare zi si cei care ne ghideaza in drumul profesional.

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Sfaturi si idei

Fie ca esti un angajat nou sau chiar unul vechi lucrul esential ce nu trebuie sa lipseasca este respectul. Nu iti cad gradele daca saluti cu consideratie managerul sau sefa, si in nici un caz n-o sa ti le castigi daca ramai tacut si nepoliticos.

De foarte multe ori suntem certati sau ni se atrage atentia cand gresim un anumit task. Singurul lucru demn de realizat este sa ne acceptam greseala si sa remediem eroarea. Stiu, uneori este mai usor sa ridici glasul si sa dai vina pe altcineva, dar e mai bine sa fii responsabil; mai mult decat atat daca dai vina pe altii, in viitor ti se va intoarce, inmiit chiar.

In cazul in care realizezi ca nu te impaci bine cu colegii si aveti mentalitati diferite atunci verifica mai intai sa vezi daca nu este ceva in neregula cu tine. Dupa ce ai facut asta, incearca sa intelegi si comportamentul colegului/colegei si daca nici asa nu gasesti o solutie fii pur si simplu nonsalant/a.

(DEX – NONȘALÁNT adj. v. degajat, dezinvolt, firesc, natural, neafectat, neartificial, necăutat, neprefăcut)

Fii sincer/a si neprefacuta. Lumea iubeste acest lucru si cu siguranta nimeni nu iubeste un „kiss ass”.

Incearca sa nu iti expui viata personala, sentimentele, emotiile si trairile. Sunt anumite lucruri personale ce trebuie mentinute pentru sine, pentru cei dragi si familie. De foarte multe ori persoanele de la serviciu vor incerca sa gaseasca din ceea ce relatezi tu un subiect de barfa, sa comenteze rautacios situatia, desi in fata iti vor vorbi frumos.

Indiferent de situatie, fii pozitiv/a. Alunga pesimismul si gandeste-te ca exista o solutie la problema ta, fiind pesimist este posibil sa adaugi un grad de dificultate situatiei si te vei inneca si in mai multa nesiguranta. Fii stapan/a pe tine si trateaza chestiunea cu curaj!

Pesimismul, lipsa increderii de sine si dezorganizarea pot fi cei mai mari dusmani ai tai! – Daca gandesti negativ, daca te plangi ca nu vei putea duce la bun sfarsit task-ul si esti dezorganizat/a sigur vei esua! Fii optimist/a, ai incredere in tine si fii organizat/a!

Pune-ti ordine in ganduri si in actiuni. Prima mea sarcina de la birou a fost sa clasific si sa ordonez documente. Nu numai ca te ajuta in a fi ordonat/a pe viitor dar iti este si mai usor sa le gasesti si sa le intelegi!

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Concluzii personale

Locul de munca poate implica persoane cu comportamente si atitudini diferite. Cu siguranta, in toate acea mare de lume va exista o fiinta pe care nu o vei suferi, una care nu se incadreaza in gusturile tale si care te va supune la incercari. De fapt, toti acesti oameni, fie ca discutam despre sefi care tot timpul ne vor fi superiori si care tot timpul vor gasi o strategema prin a ne arata inferiori lor sau acei colegi ce ne vor pune bete in roate sunt de fapt adevarati dascali ce ne vor „instrui” pe parcursul drumului profesional.

Desi ai fost inundat/a de o suvoaie de energii negative, si au fost multi oameni osteniti si iritati de jobul prea agasant, care si-au lasat pur si simplu amprenta murdara pe psihicul tau ia un burete si sterge. Nu lasa sa se adune furia si iritarea in tine, cei de acasa nu au absolut nici o vina ca tu ai avut o zi incarcata si neagra. Maine probabil colegii tai vor uita ce s-a petrecut la serviciu si vor zambi dar cei de acasa vor tine minte si vei acumula sentimente negative.

La sfarsitul zilei, tot ceea ce conteaza este ceea ce am reusit sa facem in acea zi. Daca, este ora 5 sau stai peste program si este ora 9, inchide ochii si multumeste-i Domnului pentru energia ce ti-a dat-o sa finalizezi atatea task-uri si ca ai un loc de munca si o familie frumoasa, ai pentru ce lupta si munci.

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English version

Our job, regardless of the field and the studied area, will always occupy the first place because it offers us the opportunity to develop and grow in a productive environment with qualified people.

One important thing to keep in mind is attitude at work.

The people with whom we share our daily tasks, colleagues and bosses are very important. Mainly because they represent the working environment, they are the ones who welcome us every day and those who guide us on the professional road.

Tips and Ideas

Whether you are a new or an old employee, the essential thing you should not miss is respect. Your grades won’t fall if you salute the boss manager or manager, and you will not win it if you remain silent and rude.

We are often arguing or being told if we make mistakes during a certain task. The only thing to do is to accept the mistake and fix the error. I know, sometimes it’s easier to raise your voice and blame someone else, but it’s better to be responsible; even more, if you blame others, in the future you will be blamed thousandfold.

If you realize that you are not coping well with your colleagues and having different mentalities, then first check to see if there is something wrong with you. Once you’ve done this, try to understand the behavior of your colleague and if you can not find a solution, just be nonsensical.

(DEX – Nonsensical adjunct v. Degenerate, desinvolt, natural, natural, unaffected, unnatural, untouched)

Be honest and unforgettable. The world loves this and certainly nobody loves a „kiss ass”.

Try not to expose your personal life, feelings, emotions, and feelings. There are certain personal things that need to be kept for oneself, for loved ones and family. Many times, people at work will try to find out what you’re telling a gossip topic, to comment badly on the situation, although they will speak nice in front of you.

Whatever the situation, be positive. Eliminate pessimism and think that there is a solution to your problem, being pessimistic is likely to add a degree of difficulty to the situation and will drown you in more uncertainty. Be your master and treat the matter with courage!

Pessimism, lack of self-confidence and disorganization can be your greatest enemies! – If you think negatively, if you complain that you will not be able to complete the task and you are disorganized / you will surely fail! Be optimistic, have trust in yourself and be organized!

Put order in your thoughts and actions. My first job in the office was to classify and order documents. Not only does it help you to be ordered in the future but it’s even easier to find and understand them!

Personal Conclusions

Work may involve people with different behaviors and attitudes. Surely, in all that great world there will be a being that you will not suffer, one that does not fit your tastes and will make you try harder. In fact, all of these people, whether we are talking about bosses who will always be superior to us and who will always find a way to show us we are inferior to them or those colleagues who will put „sticks in the wheel” are actually real teachers which will „train” along the professional road.

Eventhough you were flooded by a swarm of negative energies, and there were many people overworked and irritated by the job too aggressive, who simply left the dirty footprint on your psyche take a sponge and wipe it off. Do not let the rage and irritation gather in you, the family have no blame for having a busy day and a black one. Tomorrow, your colleagues will probably forget what happened at work and they will smile, but those who are at home will remember and get negative feelings.

At the end of the day, everything that matters is what we managed to do that day. If it’s 5 o’clock, or if you’re out of schedule and it’s 9 o’clock, close your eyes and thank God for the energy you gave her to complete so many tasks and that you have a job and a beautiful family, for which you can struggle and work.