This question came up a few weeks ago and stuck with me. How many of the things we do every day honor us as people, let alone as women?
I’ve witnessed countless examples on WordPress and in real-life interactions. I believe that we bend our ideas to fit others who think they are better than everyone else.
I find it common nowadays to interact with other bloggers, and while I find it pleasurable since I’m reading and learning new things, at the same time, it can feel forced. We’re purely subjective and treat the matter based on our experiences.
Some people may disagree and take our words personally. If you’ve been reading my blog and following me for a while, you may be familiar with my comments and realize that I’m respectful and assess the situation in a gentler way based on my views.
I’ve witnessed an example when my viewpoint irritated the person in charge, but she didn’t address the matter directly with me and instead asked two other people to intervene with comments unrelated to the subject, informally.
This occurred yesterday, and I was at a loss for words. I found myself in a 5+ comment thread and wasn’t sure if their comments were directed to me or the topic. Needless to say, I felt left out and didn’t understand what happened, so I chose to laugh it off, unfollow that particular blogger, and move on with my life.
The author responded to the others in the thread while entirely ignoring my activity, and there was another person in the same circumstance, which she took personally and responded to in a 300+ row explanation. Now, my question is, is it worth it? Does that honor us? I don’t think so.
I discovered that we spend too much time thinking about others and base our ideas on what is outside. Growing up in a low-vibration atmosphere and experiencing similar bullying practices, and observing how others may boast and attempt to pull you down to make themselves feel capable, has already worn its coat.
These situations no longer impact me, and I choose to let them go. Sure, I’m not comfortable confronting past wounds, but they’re scars by now, and I’ve learned my worth and which things to allow, and which to block.
Conclusion
At the end of the day, it is essential to coexist peacefully with everyone. It is preferable to ignore an insult and be prudent rather than overthinking and allowing unsettling events to occur in your life. It is preferable to treat people as we would like to be treated.
I’ll conclude this post with Psalm 37:1-40:
37 Fret not yourself because of evildoers;
be not envious of wrongdoers!
2 For they will soon fade like the grass
and wither like the green herb.
3 Trust in the Lord, and do good;
dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.[b]
4 Delight yourself in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
5 Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him, and he will act.
6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light,
and your justice as the noonday.
7 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;
fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way,
over the man who carries out evil devices!
8 Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!
Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
9 For the evildoers shall be cut off,
but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land.
10 In just a little while, the wicked will be no more;
though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there.
11 But the meek shall inherit the land
and delight themselves in abundant peace.
12 The wicked plots against the righteous
and gnashes his teeth at him,
13 but the Lord laughs at the wicked,
for he sees that his day is coming.
14 The wicked draw the sword and bend their bows
to bring down the poor and needy,
to slay those whose way is upright;
15 their sword shall enter their own heart,
and their bows shall be broken.
16 Better is the little that the righteous has
than the abundance of many wicked.
17 For the arms of the wicked shall be broken,
but the Lord upholds the righteous.
18 The Lord knows the days of the blameless,
and their heritage will remain forever;
19 they are not put to shame in evil times;
in the days of famine they have abundance.
20 But the wicked will perish;
the enemies of the Lord are like the glory of the pastures;
they vanish—like smoke they vanish away.
21 The wicked borrows but does not pay back,
but the righteous is generous and gives;
22 for those blessed by the Lord[c] shall inherit the land,
but those cursed by him shall be cut off.
23 The steps of a man are established by the Lord,
when he delights in his way;
24 though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong,
for the Lord upholds his hand.
25 I have been young, and now am old,
yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken
or his children begging for bread.
26 He is ever lending generously,
and his children become a blessing.
27 Turn away from evil and do good;
so shall you dwell forever.
28 For the Lord loves justice;
he will not forsake his saints.
They are preserved forever,
but the children of the wicked shall be cut off.
29 The righteous shall inherit the land
and dwell upon it forever.
30 The mouth of the righteous utters wisdom,
and his tongue speaks justice.
31 The law of his God is in his heart;
his steps do not slip.
32 The wicked watches for the righteous
and seeks to put him to death.
33 The Lord will not abandon him to his power
or let him be condemned when he is brought to trial.
34 Wait for the Lord and keep his way,
and he will exalt you to inherit the land;
you will look on when the wicked are cut off.
35 I have seen a wicked, ruthless man,
spreading himself like a green laurel tree.[d]
36 But he passed away,[e] and behold, he was no more;
though I sought him, he could not be found.
37 Mark the blameless and behold the upright,
for there is a future for the man of peace.
38 But transgressors shall be altogether destroyed;
the future of the wicked shall be cut off.
39 The salvation of the righteous is from the Lord;
he is their stronghold in the time of trouble.
40 The Lord helps them and delivers them;
he delivers them from the wicked and saves them,
because they take refuge in him.
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