My acne story, advises and experience

Hello, my dear readers! So, as you might know from the previous posts I have suffered in the past of acne, it is a genetic issue, as my mother had skin problems as well in her early years.

I dealt with acne for most of my early years in college and high school, and at some point, I have to recognize I got used to my condition and tried to find better ways to simply fight through the pain.

As you might think it was not easy, especially at the beginning of the journey when it all started at 13 years old. The bullying, the looks and the strange feelings I had at that time were just unfair and depressing.

It’s been 11 years since all the incidents happened and to be frank, I like to believe I left them behind. I learned that having acne is not necessarily a disease but a condition that affects your whole being, not only the skin affected but the mind and heart as well.

Advises and lessons from my acne journey

You only You only have to not let it get to you so far, to take it as a lesson if you want, take what is best from it and simply move on. If you suffer from acne, as I did in the past you might say that I am wrong or that I am talking nonsense. That is not true, and you know it deep inside.

Yes, the world is harsh and judgmental, yes they do smile in your face and speak behind your back, yes people tend to hurt you at times, but that’s simply how life it is.

The first thing that you have to do in curing the acne problems is healing your mind. The negative thoughts and depression will not get you anywhere, if not worsen the situation. You have to get your shit together, be strong and simply ignore the gibberish people speak.

They don’t know you, they have no idea what you have been through and they don’t care. They simply find a subject that is amusing to them and keep syncing the knife into the wound, like a bad comedian in their shitty play.

So, how about you don’t care about them either? Focus on your mind, study more, investigate more about acne and ways that could get you healed in time. The time they lose in speaking nonsense about you will be the time you enhance your mind and find better ways of being yourself.

Think that your condition is only temporary and will heal in time, but the mean people will stay forever, and become more and more bitter in time, like a bottle of bad wine.

I remember from my condition that strangers used to stop me on the street, give me the advice to follow regarding my condition and find ways to comfort me. If you were me at that time you would probably hate them and wish to disappear.

And yes, to answer their questions a long time after that happened I have tried it all. Medicines, injections, pills, creams, face masks, face serums, oils, diets, and much other stuff together.

Only you know the struggle and sometimes and being a storyteller in front of an anonymous person is not the best answer to feeling better. It’s like you can see in their eyes the pity and the disgrace they feel for you, it’s horrible.

The fact that your loved ones try to care and protect you by treating the matter as if it is not something serious, it’s even worse. It’s like making a huge mess around the house and covering it with a newspaper. Like that’s going to solve anything!

Time brings you peace and healthiness

No matter how inpatient I used to be in my early years, no matter how hard I have tried to fasten up the process of skin healing that did not happen. People take time to heal, and so did I.

After a ton of money spent at the doctors, treatments, diets and numerous attempts to heal the skin, it finally happened. In time my bad breakouts stopped and my face returned to the way it used to be, step by step.

I learned that I have to be very careful at what I eat, at what products I am using for my sensitive skin and that I have to exercise, drink plenty of water and take good care of myself.

God gave me this cross to bear since childhood and I had to wear it on my shoulders until the end. I am not angry or mad at Him for what I have been through because I like the way I am.

Maybe if my skin was perfect I was full of misery on the inside, treating people badly and taking them for granted. I would not have been happy with myself.

When I see people like I used to be in the past, I don’t act like a bad comedian or give pieces of advice. I am aware of one’s struggle and understand the grief inside. I simply look them in the eyes and smile sincerely, wishing a great day.

A random act of kindness can be done without any money or expensive presents, just being true and kind can bring a whole lot of joy.

I am learning every day new tricks and remedies and have to recognize that by every day that passes my skin gets better and I feel happy and content with myself.

So, at the end of this very long post of mine, I want to address this post to people who have been through what I have been, to people who know and understand the feeling of being affected by acne.

Wherever you are, whatever struggle you are going through, you are not alone and somewhere, in this big world, there is a person that understands you and would kindly embrace you and tell you that you are perfect, just the way you are.

With love, Kate.

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First post of 2020

Good morning, dear readers! Or rather, a happy new year, now that we have spent the first hours of the new year. 2020 has arrived quickly in my case, without too much fuss or preparation.

After a few days of visits to parents, relatives and acquaintances, events and cooking and cleaning sessions at home I can honestly declare that I feel tired. Especially since I started work on Monday, which adds to the fatigue and stress.

I managed to fall asleep a few minutes before the new year, at 10:40 PM overwhelmed by too many tasks and a terrible cold. However, my loved ones woke me up exactly a few minutes before the new year.

If in 2019 I had many questions and I was lost in thoughts and situations, 2020 is different, more secure. I started the new year with thoughts of peace. I have a beautiful family, ready to help at every moment, people who love me and a decent job.

I just wish that the year 2020 will be half as good as it was the previous year. Although 2019 has been tougher and more difficult, I can admit that I managed to develop and learn things that I didn’t even dream of.

Conclusions

The year 2020 is ahead of us and we are waiting to write another new chapter in our lives, and the best way to do this is by setting goals.

Time is limited and it does not make sense to waste it with insignificant details from other people’s lives. It is not necessary to pay so much attention to the malicious comments of those around us, lowering our courage and advantage. It is important to find the power to follow our heart and intuition by accomplishing what we aim for.

And if the year 2019 has been a difficult year, let us think that each end has a different beginning, in a continuous cycle. We still have 365 days to face our fears and overcome our disabilities, becoming a better version of us.

Changes are a part of this life, sometimes we have pain, sometimes beautiful things. Often life surprises us and we have both at the same time.

Change can bring fear, but the most frightening thing can be to let fear stop us from growing, evolving and progressing.

And if we make mistakes along the way, that’s fine. Because through mistakes we learn new things, trying new possibilities, working hard and practically changing ourselves and the world that we live in. We do new things, and more importantly we do something that matters.

New experiences and developments will await us in 2020. Let’s enjoy the blessings of the past and accept the promise of the future.

Happy New Year!

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Prima postare din 2020

Buna dimineata, dragi cititori! Sau mai bine zis, un an nou fericit, acum ca am pasit in primele ore ale noului an. 2020 a sosit rapid in cazul meu, fara prea multe menajamente sau pregatiri pompoase.

Dupa cateva zile de vizite la parinti, rude si cunostinte, evenimente si sesiuni de gatit si curatenie in camin pot declara sincer ca ma simt obosita. In special datorita faptului ca am inceput serviciul de luni, ceea ce aduce un plus de oboseala si stres.

Am reusit sa adorm cu cateva minute inainte de noul an, la 10:40 covarsita de prea multe taskuri si o raceala cumplita. Cu toate acestea, cei dragi m-au trezit exact cu cateva minute inainte de noul an.

Daca in 2019 aveam multe intrebari si eram pierduta in ganduri si situatii agasante, 2020 este diferit, mai sigur. Am inceput noul an multumita si cu gandul impacat. Am o familie frumoasa si gata sa sara in ajutor in fiecare moment, oameni care ma iubesc si o slujba decenta.

Imi doresc doar ca anul 2020 sa fie pe jumatate la fel de bun pe cat a fost anul precedent. Desi 2019 a fost mai dur si dificil, pot admite ca am reusit sa ma dezvolt si sa invat lucruri la care nici macar nu visam.

Concluzii

Anul 2020 sta inaintea noastra si asteapta sa scriem un alt nou capitol din viata, iar cea mai buna modalitate de a face asta este prin a ne seta obiective.

Timpul este limitat si nu are sens sa il irosim cu detalii nesemnificative din viata altor persoane. Nu este necesar sa dam atat de multa atentie comentariilor rautacioase a celor din jur, coborandu-ne curajul si avantul. Important este sa ne gasim puterea sa ne urmam inima si intuitia realizand ceea ce ne propunem.

Si daca anul 2019 a fost un an dificil, sa ne gandim ca fiecare sfarsit are un alt inceput, intr-un ciclu continuu. Avem timp inca 365 de zile sa confruntam fricile si sa ne depasim incapabilitatile, devenind o mai buna versiune a noastra.

Schimbarile sunt o parte din aceasta viata, cateodata avem parte de durere, cateodata de lucruri frumoase. Uneori viata ne surprinde si avem parte de ambele in acelasi timp.

Schimbarea poate aduce frica, insa cel mai de speriat lucru poate fi faptul ca lasam frica sa ne opreasca din a creste, evolua si progresa.

Si daca vom face greseli pe parcurs, este in regula. Pentru ca prin intermediul greselilor invatam lucruri noi, incercand noi posibilitati, muncind din greu si practic schimbandu-ne pe noi si lumea in care traim. Facem lucruri noi, si mai important facem ceva ce conteaza.

Noi experiente si intamplari ne vor astepta in 2020. Haideti sa ne bucuram de binecuvantarile trecutului si sa acceptam promisiunea viitorului.

La multi ani!

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Ganduri gri la pas de seara

Suntem muritori, si avem idei si dorinte, visuri infiripate de demult si ganduri mari, poate ca mai mari decat putem atinge uneori in fiinta noastra firava de oameni fara putere.

Mai urat este atunci cand cineva anume iti da aripi si te porneste pe carari necunoscute, sadindu-ti in suflet dorinta si apoi lasandu-te in aer, fara vreo speranta. Exact ca unui copil caruia i-ai oferit un dulce si l-ai luat imediat, rapindu-i bucuria si emotia din privire.

Recent mi s-a adus in vedere de catre o persoana duhovniceasca faptul ca daca un lucru nu este menit sa ni se intample, nu ni se va intampla. Nu are sens sa ne dorim lucruri ce nu ne sunt destinate, si doar daca Dumnezeu va dori ca noi sa atingem acel lucru dorit, atunci asa se va intampla.

Ironic este ca inca imi suna in cap versurile melodiei: Daca vrei sa-l faci pe Dumnezeu sa rada spune-I despre planurile tale.

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Dar atunci totusi, de ce s-a pornit valvataia de la inceput, ce rost au avut toate insistentele si promisiunile daca se stia ca nu va fi asa pana la final… .

Intrebari au fost multe dar in timp, raspunsurile s-au aratat fara a fi cerute specific macar. Iti e usor sa citesti in ochii goi ai persoanelor menite sa fie parte din grupul tau, in zambetul sagalnic si fatarnic, in comentariile acide din spatele tau de indata ce te intorci.

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La finalul zilei, trebuie sa realizam ca fiecare etapa din aceasta viata scurta are scopul ei si pana si rautatile, comportamentele ipocrite si lucrurile inexplicabile pe moment isi au rostul, contribuind la dezvoltarea sinelui si a procesului de maturizare.

Iar daca acel lucru dorit nu s-a implinit atunci nu a fost sa fie, pur si simplu. Nu iti pacali inima si mintea cu lucruri nerealizabile pana nu sunt palpabile si reale, adevarate in fata ta. Tu doar pastreaza-ti firea si fii tu pana la sfarsit, sincer cu tine si ceilalti.

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Rezolutiile anului 2019, amintiri si zambete

O sa incep aceasta postare prin a va ura voua, dragi cititori si bloggeri un Craciun de poveste alaturi de cei dragi, sanatate si multa fericire.

Incep in acest mod deoarece, din nou, nu am avut timp destul la dispozitie sa poposesc pe blog inainte de sarbatorile de iarna, sa impartasesc noi informatii si sa ma regasesc cu emotie in postarile colegilor bloggeri.

In postarea de astazi voi discuta despre rezolutiile anului 2019, practic voi derula amintiri din filmul anului in care inca ne aflam din perspectiva mea.

2019 in cateva randuri…

Cand spun anul 2019 ma simt pierduta in ganduri si amintiri datorita faptului ca a fost un an bogat, plin de realizari si lucruri neasteptate.

Am inceput anul 2019, in postarea aceasta atat de naiva si plina de curaj, ca un adolescent in primii ani de viata, crezand ca stiu absolut totul si ca imi voi gasi raspunsul mult asteptat la intrebarile mele.

Dar ce sa vezi? Viata m-a surprins din nou, lovindu-ma cu ce a avut ea mai bun, maturizandu-ma si schimbandu-ma complet. Cat despre intrebari, am gasit cateva raspunsuri, iar despre unele am si uitat pentru ca au reaparut altele.

Jobul mult dorit si raspunsul la rugaciunile mele

Am inceput anul 2019 cu speranta in suflet si fara un loc de munca, deoarece am ajuns la concluzia ca nu poti fi fericita si nu te poti dezvolta intr-un loc care te vrea manipulat si subjugat unei sefe frustrate. Hint: Daca 10 persoane au parasit acel loc de munca in 10 luni, sigur nu este locul perfect pentru tine.

Dupa o luna de asteptare, ponturi de la parinti si cei dragi cu privire la serviciu si cum ei au lucrat zeci de ani de zile la acelasi angajator au inceput sa apara cereri de angajare, apeluri si solicitari urgente de la diverse companii.

Dupa cateva zile muncite fara plata la diversi angajatori pentru a testa locul de munca si in special, mediul de dezvoltare am reusit sa aflu un raspuns pe care probabil nu l-as fi gandit niciodata: Specialist IT in limba engleza.

Eu, specialist in Tehnologia Informatiei? Adica, nu ma intelegeti gresit, dar am studiat Industria si Ingineria Alimentara de cand ma stiu, lucrand in laboratoare si fiind dedicata acestui domeniu.

Cand viata iti da lamai, invata sa faci limonada…

Timpul a trecut si daca la inceput materia de invatat mi se parea stufoasa si neinteligibila, treptat am ajuns sa inteleg si mai apoi sa iubesc ceea ce desfasor in fiecare zi, ore intregi.

Mai mult decat atat locul de munca este aproape de casa, temperatura din cladire este agreabila si mediul de lucru este unul propice dezvoltarii si formarii unei cariere de viitor de succes.

Ma consider norocoasa sa am sefi intelegatori, ce mereu sar in ajutor si sustin angajatii, oferindu-le suport si incredere. Cat despre colegi, pot spune ca nu am format niciodata o echipa mai buna, ca nu am cunoscut niciodata persoane mai frumoase la suflet si mai demne de respect.

Din februarie pana in decembrie, 11 luni au trecut fara sa imi dau seama la acest loc de munca. Dumnezeu mi-a oferit locul perfect pentru a ma dezvolta si pentru a merge mai departe, intr-o noua directie la care nici nu ma gandeam.

Familia si incercarile trimise de sus…

In anul 2019 familia a avut si ea un rol foarte important, fiind incercata de necazuri si tristete. Am pierdut doua persoane foarte importante anul acesta, care imi lipsesc profund mie si familiei, si pe care nu le vom uita niciodata.

Insa vreau sa cred ca absolut totul s-a intamplat pentru un motiv anume, si ca fiecare persoana a plecat intr-un loc mai bun, acolo unde trebuia sa fie.

Concluzii si rezolutii pentru anul 2020

Daca in anul precedent mi-am dorit ca o schimbare sa apara in viata mea si am intampinat cu curaj si naivitate 2019, alungand gandurile negative si furia, 2020 vreau sa fie distinct.

Imi doresc sa citesc mai mult, sa ma pot dezvolta complet imbogatindu-mi vocabularul si descoperind o noua eu, cu schimbarile aduse de anul 2019. Comunicarea este importanta si as putea sa o aduc la un alt nivel.

Poate ca anul 2019 a fost cam brutal si schimbarile aduse au fost in mare parte binevenite, insa mi-as dori sa pot canaliza aceasta furie si noul comportament in ceva pozitiv, creand o noua personalitate.

De asemenea, in 2019 am inceput putin cate putin sa imi dedic cateva ore din viata catre training, mai concret, exercitii fizice pentru indreptarea pozitiei spatelui deoarece petrec multe ore in fata computerului dar si pentru o sanatate mai buna.

Mi-as dori sa continui acest program si sa imi construiesc si o dieta corespunzatoare, incercand sa stau departe de carbohidrati si grasimi.

Voi continua pe cat posibil sa dezvolt acest blog si in 2020, dezvoltandu-ma pe parcurs alaturi de oameni minunati ce fac din WordPress o mare familie.

Cat despre necunoscut… ma voi lasa surprinsa de viata anul acesta. 2020 stie cel mai bine! 🙂

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Quotes for a broken heart and moving on

Hello, dear readers! Today’s post is going to be about a broken heart and moving on in life. I have chosen for you a list of quotes that may enlighten your mind and help you in the journey of life. Enjoy!

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Quotes for a broken heart and moving on

“Yes, I understand why things had to happen this way. I understand his reason for causing me pain. But mere understanding does not chase away the hurt. It does not call upon the sun when dark clouds have loomed over me. Let the rain come then if it must come! And let it wash away the dust that hurt my eyes!“
Jocelyn Soriano

“No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.“
Faraaz Kazi

“It is only with true love and compassion that we can begin to mend what is broken in the world. It is these two blessed things that can begin to heal all broken hearts.“
Steve Maraboli

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.“
Mark Twain

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.“
Shannon L. Alder

“Every time your heart is broken, a doorway cracks open to a world full of new beginnings, new opportunities.“
Patti Roberts

“Listen to God with a broken heart. He is not only the doctor who mends it but also the father who wipes away the tears.“
Criss Jami

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.“
Mandy Hale

“I wish I were a little girl again because skinned knees are easier to fix than a broken heart.”
Julia Roberts

“You find out what you are made of when you have a broken heart. If it happens early and often, all the better.” Isabel Gillies

“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” Steve Maraboli

“You can close your eyes to things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to things you don’t want to feel. ” Johnny Depp

“A wounded deer leaps highest. ” Emily Dickinson

“Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.” L. Ron Hubbard

“You’re gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul.” Christina Perri

“It is a curious sensation: the sort of pain that goes mercifully beyond our powers of feeling. When your heart is broken, your boats are burned: nothing matters anymore. It is the end of happiness and the beginning of peace. ” George Bernard Shaw

“Everyone in life is going to hurt you, you just have to figure out which people are worth the pain. ” Bob Marley

“Don’t throw away your time dreaming of someone that doesn’t want you. No one is that amazing, certainly not the one who would pass you up.” Donna Lynn Hope

“Sometimes a little heartbreak is a lesson, and the best thing to do is just learn the lesson. ” Jon Voight

“If you’re really listening, if you’re awake to the poignant beauty of the world, your heart breaks regularly. In fact, your heart is made to break; its purpose is to burst open again and again so that it can hold evermore wonders. ” Andrew Harvey

“The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears. And the kindest hearts have felt the most pain. “

“Our hearts will be broken a thousand times over, but who is to say that our hearts were ever perfect to begin with? Maybe they can withstand a few cracks. After all, the way that we love is not perfect. We love things to such an incomprehensible depth that these things become worn in. Wouldn’t the most beautiful thing in the world be a heart that has been through all of the wear and tear, as worn in as your favorite sweater that both keeps you warm and grants you a smile in return? That’s the kind of heart that I want. Bruises make for beautiful colors after all. “ Elizabeth Brooks

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Hang in there, dear you

You know that moment when the week has just started, it’s Wednesday and your powers seem to fail? When you sleep too less but you feel that yesterday you slept even less than today?

When you wonder your powers and think if what you have done is enough and if you are doing a great job or just hanging around the world by just another thread?

When people may start to wonder how much you can take but you keep on moving and working, just giving your best in order to succeed?

Your powers may be low, your mind may be crowded with gray thoughts, your body is weak and you might feel that you are going to fail. But you are not, dear soul.

Always remember that you are strong, tenacious and powerful. You can do whatever you dream of and if you work strong enough today, tomorrow you might as well have it.

You are young, amazing and beautiful. Disregard the mistakes and the defects, they are just details in a world full of people with flaws. You are the best version of yourself and nobody can do a better job than you.

So, today at the beginning of the journey, pat yourself on the shoulder and remember that you are doing great, just hang in there, dear. Be kind and understanding with you because nobody is going to do it for you.

Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is till standing. Sometimes the noise of life can be just too much. If you need to escape, love yourself enough to know when you need a real time out.

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