Sunday thoughts wrapped in a beautiful „YOU”

Hello, guys!

It’s been a while since I could not find the time to write my thoughts in here, on my personal page, in Kate’s World. I am really sorry, in front of you and in front of me. I am saying this because it’s been so long and I so much longed to be in here, to be writing again.

As you might think, the last few months were really busy for me. I was caught struggling between work and family, between a break and me. But, to be 100% fair, there was no ME lately, and no break as you might guess.

It took me a while to figure it out, to understand. In this big, crazy world we always concern about work&about tasks, about people and their reactions, about what they might think or feel about us.

But when should we be concerned about ourselves, when should we be on the first place?

When was the last time you asked yourself if you enjoyed your company, when was the last time you asked yourself if you liked that movie, or if you really liked that nasty food? When did you really felt comfortable enough to laugh out loud, when was the last time you were true to yourself?

Good questions you may say. But do we know the answers to these realities? Yes we do. And within ourselves we regret the choices that we made in the past and maybe today.

Be the change that you want to see in others

My idea would be that in every single week we should chose a time to be frank to ourselves, to do something that we love, to be our best version of „ME” that is hidden somewhere inside us.

Start with baby steps, chose an easier task which is convenient for the moment and for you. Do exactly the thing that defines you and says „This is me” better than anything.

Do you like singing in a cold shower early in the morning? Then do it. Do you enjoy listening to slow jazz music with a glass of sweet wine and a good book in your lap? What is stopping you?  Do you love taking small walks on the road with loud music in your headphones? Then do it.

Take 5-10 minutes of your time and do something that you really love doing, something that really satisfies you and makes you happy. Forget about what people think or talk, because they will never stop.

So what if the neighbors will be awake earlier in the morning from the noises of your crazy song and the drops of clear water? They aren’t going to stop late in the night that Dem drill anyway.

So what if there will be persons who will make funny faces at you while you walk to nowhere in your life’s voyage with noisy rock music in your ears? It is your choice not their and they don’t have any right to tell you what is better to do or not to do.

Each and every one of us has a cross to bear and a path to follow in this short life. Take what is rightfully yours and enjoy your time while you can. Stop thinking about what people will say or think, because people are people and you can’t come to an end with them.

The only person who you should think often, love and cherish is yourself. At the end of the day, what really matters is what you accomplished and how happy YOU are. The rest is just dust in the wind.

Think about that. Think About YOU!

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Reclame

Cum sa iti pastrezi calmul in situatii stresante

In ultima vreme, situatiile intalnite din jurul meu au fost extrem de stresante atat la serviciu cat si acasa. Astfel, in scurt timp, am ajuns de la o persoana calma si extrem de rabdatoare, la o persoana agitata, nerabdatoare si pregatita de atac in secunda doi.

Acum, dat fiind ca este duminica, o zi de relaxare si odihna inaintea saptamanii viitoare dinaintea sarbatorilor pascale, mi-am pus in gand sa fac o schimbare. Voi pune accent pe schimbarea comportamentului si diminuarea stresului vibrant ce m-a cuprins in ultima perioada.

Astazi imi doresc sa impartasesc cu voi, dragi cititori, cateva dintre metodele pe care imi doresc sa le abordez in evitarea stresului si pastrarea calmului cat mai mult cu putinta.

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Ce este stresul?

Dexul defineste : STRES, stresuri, (Med.) Termen general utilizat pentru orice factor din mediu (traumatism, emotii, frig, caldura etc.) capabil sa provoace la om si la animale o stare de tensiune si o reactie de alarma a organismului, determinand uneori imbolnaviri grave; p. ext. efect nefavorabil produs asupra organismului fiintelor de un factor de mediu.

Cum sa ne pastram calmul in situatii stresante?

Faptul ca suntem intr-o graba constanta ne seaca de energie. Munca, rutina de zi cu zi si situatiile neasteptate ne pun rabdarea si calmul la incercare, coplesindu-ne complet. Asadar, cateva etape importante pe care trebuie sa le respectam in cazul de fata sunt:

1. Respira si Expira. Respira si expira adanc de 5 ori. Imagineaza-ti cum toata tensiunea dispare din organismul tau dupa fiecare expirare si zambeste.
2. Relaxeaza-te. Dupa procesul de respirare/expirare analizeaza-ti trupul si identifica exact ce zone sunt inclestate si tensionate. Maseaza incet zonele afectate si imagineaza-te intr-un loc ce te-ar putea calma: la plaja, la munte sau chiar intr-o cada fierbinte cu apa.
3. Nu pune la suflet, renunta. Oricat de ciudat ar parea, sa renunti la o situatie stresanta este de foarte multe ori, indicat. Faptul ca te stresezi si te ingrijorezi nu vor ameliora situatia, deoarece esti deja implicat in act. Asadar, tine capul sus si renunta, spune Nu.
4. Daca ai un tel maret, imparte-l in succese marunte. Sa te concentrezi mereu pe rezultatul final poate deveni obositor deoarece implinca mult timp si rabdare. Nu te mai concentra pe ganduri negative. Faptul ca iti oferi feedback pozitiv te va ajuta sa cresti in rabdare, in curaj si sa gasesti mai multa bucurie in indeplinirea unui tel.
5. Ce ar face altcineva in locul meu? O alta modalitate de a te destresa este sa iti imaginezi ce ar face alta persoana in locul tau. Intreaba-te pur si simplu, ce ar face „Z” in situatia asta? „Z” poate fi oricine, eroul tau preferat din ultima carte citita, personajul mult adorat dintr-un film sau chiar tu intr-un anumit moment al vietii tale. Deoarece „TU” esti puternic.
6. Priveste imaginea in ansamblu. Atunci cand te vei regasi intr-o situatie stresanta, opreste-te, respira adanc. Intreaba-te daca te vei pierde cu firea acum, acest lucru va mai conta: saptamana viitoare, luna viitoare, in urmatorii 10 ani? Raspunsul, il stii si tu, il stiu si eu, Nu va conta! Ce sens are sa ne agonizam intr-o durere pasagera ce probabil nu ne-o vom reaminti saptamana viitoare?
7. Nu iti mai cere imposibilul! Nimeni nu este perfect si este in regula. Perfectiunea nu a existat niciodata, si nici nu va exista. Sa ceri permisiunea de la o persoana si chiar de la tine este stresant si imposibil.
8. Pune-ti rabdarea la incercare in fiecare zi. Poate ca o sa razi, deoarece in fiecare zi rabdarea ne este pusa la incercare de factori externi. De ce am incerca sa ne hazardam? Raspunsul este simplu. Pentru ca exersand, rabdarea noastra va deveni mai maleabila si vom putea reactiona diferit la necunoscut, fara stres si nervi, doar cu calm si perseverenta.
9. Fii prezent in ASTAZI. Atunci cand ai multe lucruri de facut si trebuie sa fii activ 24/24, atat la serviciu cat si acasa, nu iti mai suprasolicita gandurile si energia pe ziua de maine. Traiesti astazi, esti prezent astazi in actiunile de astazi si punct. Deoarece ziua de maine va veni oricum, si nu are sens sa gandesti astazi pentru maine si maine pentru astazi.
10. Ai grija de tine, si asculta-ti gandurile frecvent. In jurul nostru suntem in fiecare zi atacati din toate directiile, si in unele cazuri nu exista nimeni in jur sa ne poata oferi sentimentul de confort si siguranta. Programeaza-ti mai mult pentru a avea grija de tine. Respecta-ti gandurile si dorintele, iubeste-te pe tine insuti. Daca tu te vei iubi indeajuns pe tine, atunci si ceilalti o vor face.

Tine minte, drag cititor, tu esti cerul… restul lucrurilor ce se intampla fac parte doar dintr-o vreme trecatoare.

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Gandul zilei #21/ Thought of the day #21

Astazi este miercuri. Din nou, doar ca parca saptamana asta are un mod de a fi mai pasagera decat cealalta saptamana. Simt mai putin apasatoare orele petrecute la munca si acasa, am impresia ca parca ieri ar fi fost luni si astazi, iata, e miercuri.

Singurul lucru care nu se schimba este ploaia ce pare a fi din ce in ce mai deasa si mai rece. In ultima vreme tind sa cred ca vremea este prielnica vampirilor, nu tu soare, nu tu caldura… doar ploaie marunta, vant si frig.

Nu mai am energie, nu imi mai doresc sa zambesc, nu mai vreau sa fiu prietenoasa, ci sa fiu serioasa cu mine si cei din jur. Imi doresc doar sa imi inchid emotiile intr-o geaca groasa de iarna si sa inchid ochii. Sa meditez la necunoscut si inevitabil.

Astazi nu am inspiratie, dragi cititori, nu stiu ce as putea sa va spun. Imi doresc doar ca aceasta saptamana sa ia sfarsit si monotonia gri de semi-toamna de aprilie sa se blocheze pe undeva, printr-un alt univers paralel.

English Version

Today is Wednesday. Again, just like this week has a way to be more comfortable than the other week. I feel less pressing about the hours spent at work and at home, I feel like yesterday it was Monday and today, here it is Wednesday.

The only thing that does not change is the rain that seems to be getting thicker and colder. Lately, I tend to think the weather is more convenient for vampires, there is no sun, no warmth … just heavy rain, wind and cold.

I do not have any more energy, I do not want to smile anymore, I do not want to be friendly, but be serious about myself and others. I just want to close my emotions in a thick winter jacket and close my eyes. Let me meditate on the unknown and inevitably.

Today I have no inspiration, dear readers, I do not know what I could tell you. I just want this week to end and gray monotony of the April autumn semi-fall blocking somewhere through another parallel universe.

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Primavara pierduta/ The lost springtime

Este monoton. Mi se pare ca iarna aceasta este foarte nehotarata… suntem in ajun de aprilie si inca simt fiorii reci ai sezonului precedent. Un vant rece si dur strabate aerul mult prea rece pentru primavara anului 2019, si gradele din termometru sunt foarte modeste.

Imi este dor sa simt razele soarelui vesel si adierea calda a aerului linistit de primavara, sa simt pasii timizi ai verii apropiindu-se alene. Imi lipseste ciripitul melodios al pasarilor de primavara si zumzetul albinelor in plin sezon, parfumul florilor de aprilie si culorile proaspete ale anotimpului cald.

Dar, din pacate realitatea reflecta o imagine diferita spre deosebire de ceea ce imi doresc sa simt eu, si probabil majoritatea oamenilor. Afara persista un tablou inghetat de primavara cu nuante vestede si umede, ramase inchistate parca in amintirea iernii trecute.

Pe ici-colo rasar obosite din covorul pamantesc minusculi vestitori ai primaverii, inveliti in straturi groase de frunze, infiorate parca de temperatura scazuta si vantul crud ce strabat tinutul. Albine ratacite, lipsite de putere zumzaie haotic prin incaperile oamenilor si cauta o sursa de hrana, un fir de polen prafuit prin florile ascunse in balconul mult prea rece.

Pasari primavaratice reintoarse din marea calatorie a iernii se aduna in grupuri si privesc resemnate la vremea incerta ce le-a jucat anul acesta o gluma proasta. Porumbei colorati viu se aglomereaza in ramurile copacilor ce au pastrat din pinii anului precedent, construindu-si mici casute ca adapost pentru frigul neasteptat.

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Inlauntrul oamenilor, sezonul nemilos sadeste sentimente gri si neplacute, irita starea de spirit si intensifica nervozitatea aparuta parca de nicaieri. La sfarsitul zilei, dupa obisnuitul program de serviciu, oboseala se resimte parca mai statornica decat in ziua precedenta.

Timpul pare a nu mai avea masura, iar in clepsidra vietii firele de nisip par a se evapora in stratul gros de sticla. Astfel, ceea ce inseamna azi, devine maine, iar maine poimaine. Dar ziua de dupa poimaine va aduce soare si poate, speranta in suflet.

English version

It’s monotonous. It seems to me that this winter is very undecided … we are on the eve of April and still feel the cold thrill of the previous season. A cold and tough wind blows the air too cold for the spring of 2019, and the degrees of the thermometer are very modest.

I miss to feel the bright sunshine and the warm air of the quiet spring air, to feel the shady steps of the summer coming nearer. I miss the melodious chirping of the spring birds and the buzz of the bees in the full season, the perfume of the April flowers and the fresh colors of the warm season.

But, unfortunately, reality reflects a different image, unlike what I, and probably most people, want me to feel. Outside, there is a frozen spring painting with dazzling and humid nuances, which remained as if in memory of the past winter.

Around here, spring flowers tired of the tiny ground floor carpets are covered in thick layers of leaves, and also are faded by the low temperature and the cruel wind that crossed the land. Lost bees humorously hurl through people’s balcony’s and search for a source of food, a dust pollen wire blossoming through the flowers hidden in the far too cold balcony.

First spring birds return from the great winter trip gathering in groups and look resigned at the uncertain weather that this year played a bad joke. Colorful live pigeons clutter in the branches of the trees that kept the pines of the previous year, building small houses as a shelter for the unexpected cold.

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Within people, the ruthless season sets up gray and unpleasant feelings, irritates the mood and intensifies the nervousness that appears from nowhere. At the end of the day, after the usual service schedule, fatigue seems more stable than the previous day.

Time seems to be out of the question, and in the hourglass of life the wires seem to evaporate into the thick layer of glass. So, what it means today is tomorrow, and tomorrow the day after tomorrow. But the day after dawn will bring the sun and maybe, hope in the soul.

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Thought of the day 20#

Decisions, decisions and decisions, we rule our entire life by those strings. Sometimes I just stay and think, I just meditate about the present period but don’t usually think about future. Quotes say to live in the moment and enjoy the present, but what if sometimes hurried choices contour your life in future?… .

Things are meant to happen in time, one by one, step by step just to be felt and lived in  entire proportion. Patience should be the thing which enlightens our way, always and forever. It’s just sad that reality teaches us this fact, later, when it hurts the most.

We are young, we live and we love. Rules are not respected all the time and are there just for presence, and to be over-passed. When we are young we are free and do almost whatever we want, we go savage and live life to the fullest.

The heart is so fragile and easy to be broken, that we don’t even realize when that happens. It’s all laughs and happiness until left alone in solitude, and your heart just starts skipping a beat. Tic-tac, all the time on the watch of life, but time is always cruel.

We want to make a difference, to be someone, to be independent and fully responsible of our facts and decisions. We want to own the situation and be 100% proud of our development and courage that we have given proof in life, building huge castles of sand.

But castles of sand no matter how huge, they will always collapse at the strongest wave. And those situations you owned in past make no difference in the now situations, the ex future. Young souls are supposed to get crushed, turn into sand and after that be a part of something beautiful and huge again.

That is our life’s trace usually, get up and be awesome, fall back in our knees again, turn into flat sand, and rise again. The heart might get lost sometimes, but we should always use our brains just to get in the fact, accept the reality and move on.

William Shakespeare once written: I must be cruel, only to be kind. One should always be tough with a personal self, just to improve and become better in time.

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Gandul zilei 19#/Thought of the day 19#

Este seara si tarziu. Mult prea tarziu pentru a concluziona elementele importante ale zilei, mult prea obositor. Mintea este incarcata de notiuni nemaintalnite iar picioarele se simt greoaie si obosite, trupul este istovit. Dar cine mai sta sa numere orele si minutele scurse? La urma urmei timpul este facut sa treaca.

Afara e intuneric. Seara s-a lasat pe nesimtite, cuprinzand lumea intr-o manta neagra si umeda. Pe drum se zaresc faruri aprinse ale unor masini ratacite intr-o intersectie mult prea ingusta si becuri ce lumineaza slab soseaua.

Pe trotuar poti asculta pasii incalciti si grabiti ai trecatorilor osteniti adancindu-se in belti formate de sezonul ce tocmai a trecut. Lumea este agitata si se grabeste, fiecare la randul lui asteptand sa ajunga la adapost, intr-un loc cald si primitor, ferit de intemperii si tristeti, intr-un loc numit acasa.

In statia de microbuz, bancile de lemn sunt umede si mult prea reci. Stropii ascutiti de apa trec fulgeratori prin adapostul temporar, iar vantul arunca furios cu valuri de frig si neputinta. Fire subtiri si albe se ivesc de nicaieri pe cer, luminand pentru un moment intinderea pamanteasca.

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Dar este abia luni si este ora 9 seara. Se arata o saptamana intreaga in fata plina de provocari si incercari, o saptamana intensa si lunga. La sfarsitul zilei ma simt amortita si mult prea obosita pentru a mai putea descrie si alte lucruri, lucruri vazute si simtite, lucruri care pot fi spuse si lucruri care trebuie tinute in adancul sufletului.

La sfarsitul zilei vreau doar sa tac si sa ascult ploaia, sa simt picaturile de ploaie pe piele contopindu-se cu sudoarea unei zile prelungite.

English version

It’s evening and late. Far too late to conclude the important elements of the day, far too exhausting. The mind is loaded with unimaginable notions and the legs feel awkward and tired, the body is exhausted. But who else can count the hours and minutes spent? After all, time is gone.

Outside it’s dark. The evening was left unmoved, encompassing the world in a black and wet mantle. On the way there are light beams of lost cars in a too narrow intersection, and light bulbs illuminating the road.

On the sidewalk you can listen to the hurried footsteps of the wandering passers by deepening into puddle formed by the season that has just passed. The world is agitated and hurrying, each in turn waiting to go to shelter, in a warm and welcoming place, away from the weather and sadness, in a place called home.

In the minibus station, wood benches are damp and too cold. Sparkling water splashes are flashing through the temporary shelter, and the wind blows furiously with cold waves and powerlessness. Thin and white threads rise out of the sky, lighting up for a moment the earthly stretch.

But it’s only Monday and it’s 9 o’clock in the evening. It will be a full week full of challenges and trials, a long and intense week. At the end of the day I feel numb and too tired to be able to describe other things, things seen and felt, things that can be said and things to be kept deep in the soul.

At the end of the day I just want to hear the silence and listen to the rain, to feel the drops of rain on the skin merging with the sweat of a prolonged day.

Vinerea cea tacuta/The quiet friday (Quote of the day 18#)

Imi place sa privesc cerul. Si uneori sa tac. Sa stau in monotonia gandirii ascultand sentimentele cele mai ascunse si emotii mult prea traite.

Prea multa vorbarie uneori este in zadar, obosesti la un moment dat. Asadar, prefer sa stau, sa ascult, sa interpretez, sa las persoanele din jurul meu sa se exprime. Si cele mai sociabile persoane au nevoie uneori de o pauza, de tacere.

Ma pierd in multime, alaturi de oameni necunoscuti si curiosi, cu priviri iscoditoare si critice. Atitudinea pastrata este aceeasi mereu, pasiva si indiferenta. De ce mi-ar pasa ce gandesc persoane pe care nici macar nu le cunosc?… .

Firicele de vant subtiri gadila pielea si transmit fiori reci in corp. Haina de iarna apasa adanc pe corp si ghetele grele incetinesc pasii. Dar afara este inca frig si februarie, si sufletul vrea sa se ascunda dupa un anotimp rece, jucandu-se cu o realitate fragila. Oboseala este omniprezenta si sufletul incarcat.

Dupa nori fumurii si grei, pare a se ivi si soarele cu dinti, domnind precum un rege maiestos si puternic. Ciori negre incoltesc cerul in semn primejdios cu sunete morbide si reci, intr-un peisaj de iarna tarzie.

English version

I like to look at the sky. And sometimes keep quiet. To Stay in the monotony of thinking, listening to the most hidden feelings and emotions way too lived.

Too much talk sometimes is in vain, you get tired at some point. So I prefer to stand, listen, interpret, let the people around me express themselves. And the most sociable people sometimes need a break, to enjoy the silence.

I lose myself in the crowd, with strange and curious people with curious and critical looks. Attained attitude is always the same, passive and indifferent. Why would I care what people think if I do not even know them?

The thin wind gadgets the skin and transmit cold creeps into the body. Winter clothes press deep on the body and heavy boots slow down the steps. But outside is still cold and February, and the soul wants to hide behind a cold season, playing with a fragile reality. Fatigue is omnipresent and the soul loaded.

After the smoky and heavy clouds, it appears the cold sun, reigning like a majestic and mighty king. Black crows embody the sky in a dangerous sign with morbid and cold sounds, in a late winter landscape.

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