Song of the day #129

This sound brings me good feelings in this quarantine.

I hope you will like it! ^^

The road to a healthy hair

I noticed these days, that I am starting to lose a lot of hair, in comparison to what I lost in the past. I gave up ironing my hair during this quarantine and stopped blow drying it, leaving it as natural as I could.

I only used commercial hair masks, hair oils, and simply, breaded the hair or kept it high in a ponytail. I think that the methods used in the past to take care of my hair were harsh and burned my hair strands, making it thin and easier to break.

I want to try some new home remedies for hair at home and see if it will make any difference. I went through moments like these in the past and always my hair regenerated and got better after a period like this.

I don’t want to cut the hair though, because it increased in length and I do like my hair longer, and besides, there is no salon open due to the quarantine. I saw so many hair fails in this quarantine and I don’t want to mess up with my hair, knowing how hard it is to grow it back.

Natural and healthy remedies for a strong hair

Massage – I believe we all remember the scalp massage that our hairdresser does for us (I love it so bad, that I will spend a full day in a salon ❤️). Massaging the scalp can help to restore the hair growth and it can be done simply, without anything or with essential oils and masks. Learning to massage the scalp every day can also reduce tension and stress.

Essential oils like lavender oil, peppermint oil, rosemary oil, geranium oil can improve the hair growth.

According to a 2016 study, the researchers concluded that regular scalp massages can lead to thicker hair. This study involved nine men who received a 4-minute scalp massage each day for 24 weeks. At the end of the study, it was found that the men had thicker hair than at the start.

A traditional scalp massage involves the use of our fingertips only.

  1. Use the fingertips of both hands to apply light to medium pressure to your scalp, moving in small circles.
  2. Work your way across your scalp to cover all areas.
  3. Try to massage your scalp using your fingertips for at least 5 minutes at a time, several times a day.
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Aloe Vera – It is known as a treatment for hair loss as it contains proteolytic enzymes which repair dead skin cells on the scalp. Aloe Vera soothes the scalp and conditions the hair, reducing the dandruff and unblocking the hair follicles that may be blocked by the excess oils.

The Aloe Vera gel can be simply applied on the scalp and head for a few times on the week. Shampoo and conditioners with Aloe Vera can help as well.

Dr. Deepali Bhardwaj, dermatologist says, „Aloe vera is rich in vitamin C, E and beta carotene which gives it its nourishing and anti-aging qualities. It can moisturize the skin without making it greasy, which makes it a great buy for those with oily skin.”

 Diane Gage, author of  Aloe Vera: Nature’s Soothing Healer says, „Keratin, the primary protein of hair, consists of amino acids, oxygen, carbon, and small amounts of hydrogen, nitrogen, and sulfur. Aloe Vera has a chemical make up similar to that of keratin and it rejuvenates the hair with its own nutrients, giving it more elasticity and preventing breakage.”

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Coconut oil – Coconut oils have been used for many years for moisturizing and also for its numerous benefits. For hair, this oil can help reduce the protein loss in all hair types. Coconut oil is rich in lauric acid and easily penetrates the hair strand, making it perfect for use as a daily conditioner.

The coconut oil can give shine to the hair, by locking in the moisture and giving an amazing glow and shine. Also, the oil is a good agent for hair growth, helping the hair to grow longer and thicker faster than we can think.

The vitamins and the essential fatty agents found in coconut oil nourishes the scalp and help to remove sebum build-up from hair follicles.

According to specialists, the best time to use coconut oil for hair is at night and it works the best for dry hair. If using the coconut oil in the morning, the hair can end up looking greasy because it takes time to dry.

Saviano says. „I recommend warming the coconut oil so it becomes liquified and rubbing it in your hands to lather on the ends of your hair. You want the coconut oil to be warm (not hot) to open the hair cuticles, which allows the molecules to penetrate the hair.”

It’s important to allow the coconut oil to sit in our hair for 20-30 minutes and then rinse. The time frame can be extended to the persons with dryer hair. To increase its effectiveness, cover your hair with a shower cap, and wrap it up in a hot towel fresh from the dryer or apply heat with a hairdryer for a few minutes to open up the cuticle and help the oil penetrate deeper into the strands.

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Fish OilFish oil helps in opening up the hair follicles and promoting hair growth, thereby making up for daily hair loss. Also, since Omega-3 is a healthy fat, it prevents a very dry and flaky scalp.

Ginseng – Consuming ginseng supplements can improve hair growth by stimulating the hair follicle. Ginsenosides are the active components of ginseng and are thought to be responsible for its positive effect on hair. 

Lemon – Fresh lemon juice or lemon oil can improve the hair quality and growth. Lemon oil can maintain a healthy scalp and can be used in a massage before shampooing.

Tips for growing a healthy, shiny hair

  1. Avoid excessive shampooing and brushing.
  2. Limit the use of chemical treatment dyes and heating styling tools. They can hurt the hair follicle and cause damage.
  3. Talk with the doctor about testing for nutritional deficiencies. Low levels of zinc, iron, and biotin may all contribute to hair loss.
  4. Maintain a balanced diet. The foods that we consume should be balanced, containing the required nutrients important for a healthy scalp. Healthy foods list: meat, eggs, fish, beans.
  5. Avoid brushing wet hair. Brushing wet hair will result in hair fall since, at that time, the hair roots are soft and can easily lose its grip. Brush your hair before you shower.
  6. Condition correctly. „Apply your conditioner first to the mid-shaft and ends of your hair; then work your way up to the scalp,” advises Brook. It’s important to have a well-conditioned scalp.
  7. Apply natural hair masks. It’s recommended to keep hair strands hydrated and smooth „use a moisturizing hair mask or deep conditioner at least once a week, and more frequently if you use hot tools regularly,” says Brook.
  8. Regulate the temperature of your shower. Taking hot baths on a daily basis can irritate the scalp and weakens your hair as it grows up. Maintain the water temperature at the warm side, and at the end of the shower, rinse the hair ends with cold water to seal the cuticles shut, boost shine, and maintain healthy hair.
  9. Sleep on silk. Make sure you swap out your cotton pillowcase for a silk alternative. „It protects the cuticle of your hair by reducing the amount of friction between your hair and the fabric,” says Brook.

The hair is of so much importance to the face, that the gracefulness of a woman’s head, and the likeness of a man’s portrait, depend in a great measure upon its arrangement. ~Auguste Alexandre Philippe Charles Blanc

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A new beginning

Hello, my dear readers and fellow bloggers! Today is Monday again, but this time it’s like I don’t feel the burden so hard on my chest. I have good feelings, feel good and I am positive. 🌞

I’ve been enjoying a week full of rest and now it is time to go back to work, still from home. I have to admit I missed the job and going back out there, helping people with IT issues. The quarantine is not lifted yet, will probably be on 15 may, as the authorities announced.

I miss my family members, the places where I grow up, I also miss the workplace, my colleagues, and the warm atmosphere. I can’t wait to return back at home and at the office and meet with everyone.

I do understand that measures are to be taken and that we need to be careful, stay protected, wear masks, and keep the distance. Even if the quarantine will be lifted the risk is still present, so the best for us is to pay attention to details and be responsible.

Nevertheless, I need to thank God for keeping us safe and healthy, even if at times we struggled and maybe did not always felt healthful and strong, things got better now. I am thankful that we have a job, a place where to stay and a new week is ahead of us.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best. 

Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A ‘you can do it’ when things are tough. Richard M. DeVos

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Korean crush

Watching Korean dramas got me addicted lately, and I stumble from one Korean movie to another. After watching so many movies with the actor Gong Yoo I arrived at one clear conclusion. I have a crush 🤫😪.

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Yes, I know, this should not happen. I mean the actor I have a crush on is in his 40’s smashing his movie career. But what can I do? It’s not like you can control your feelings.

And I thought to myself, Kate, this can be treated 😂. So, here I go, trying to check other movies, still Korean, of course (can’t give up at my passion for Korean movies either), but changing the actors and the frame completely.

It took me two weeks to completely start and finish the movie: The heirs.

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A cute movie overall, but my mind was still with Gong Yoo. Don’t get me wrong, the actors in this movie were good and played their role amazing. But I guess it’s not easy to get over your first Korean Movie Crush.

So, Gong Yoo, if you ever read this post (like this is ever going to happen), please don’t hate me. I could not control it. 

How do you deal with your movie crushes, dear bloggers? Any treatments? 😅

Because we have to let go

Time has flown away since the last post. Everything appeared to vanish so soon in this quarantine that I don’t even know when it occurred and most importantly, if all of it was just a bad dream.

I was telling you in the last post that my cousin, Costel has passed away recently. His death was more of a shock to me because I could not believe it was true. 

Things just happened in such a rush and very unexpectedly, and the worst part is that I could not do anything to prevent it or at least, lead him on his last road.

He was eventually brought back from the hospital and buried yesterday, without any funeral services. There were only a handful of people that led him to his grave, way too soon than anyone can expect.

I was just put in the face with the harsh reality, and had to accept it. That night when I heard the news I could not sleep and stayed awake until 6 AM in the morning. I kept thinking about the death and my parents, and family, and felt bad that I was not able to protect them.

What worries me more, is that a hospital near my parent’s house holds 369 infected persons and patients (with Covid-19), some of the affected ones being neighbors and close friends of the family.

This virus keeps us away from the ones that we love and sometimes is just so hard to bear and to wait, and do nothing. We get to see the life happening in front of our eyes, but don’t have the power to interfere and to change things. It breaks my heart when I realize that staying apart is the best way we can protect them. I was never good at staying apart.

A few pieces of advice

At this moment, everything that I can do, that WE can do is to stay apart and pray. God is the only one that can help us get through these moments, and it’s important to realize that we are not alone.

And if our family members, friends, and colleagues are being affected by the virus and even taken away, let’s be thankful and appreciate the moments that we spent together.

Let’s realize that the persons that have died, are not dead in our heart, and they will only pass away if we forget them. We cannot lose what we have enjoyed deeply once, because all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

It’s important to understand that it’s not the length of life that matters, but the depth of it. Rumi said that „Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”

Be brave, be strong

Let’s allow our lives to reflect the faith that we have in God. Fear nothing and pray about everything. We often forget to pray and say thank you when good happens, but isn’t God with us when good things happen as well?

It’s time to be courageous in a situation like this when everyone around us feels lost. Let’s be willing to push through fear, in spite of feeling it so heavy. Step up, and lead ourselves, let’s be brave because we can.

We fail to realize that strength doesn’t come from winning, but from struggles and hardships that we go through in this life. When dark times come, like the pandemic, let’s not give up. Let’s be strong, trust the process and God, because every battle prepares us for the next war.

Unexpected sadness

You know that moment when you are going on with your life normally? When even if quarantined, you are trying to keep yourself positive and attempting to keep happy and motivated, having good thoughts? And then the world simply falls on your back?

That’s how I feel now.

There are some people in our family circle, that we don’t regularly speak with, some people that chose to stay hidden and live in their small little universe. Those people that deep down you love, and they know it but saying it out loud will not make any difference, for you or them.

But anyway, you are happy knowing that they are fine and feel comforted at the thought that nothing bad is going to happen to them. Until the unexpected happens.

Memories are all the we have

They were the best two friends I could ask for, Costel and Elena. Sons of my mother’s brother, Costica, they were the two special members of my childhood. We did almost everything together, from playing in the yard to pick the apples in the autumn. We even did mud pies together.

Unfortunately, my uncle was alone as his wife left him for another man and the two kids that resulted from their short love remained with him. So, he struggled, as he could to raise the two children, Costel and Elena on his own.

Life was not easy with my uncle as he struggled as he could to work and to bring money on the table. We lived in the same courtyard, but in different houses and always tried our best to help them as we could.

There were good times when my uncle managed to find a nice job and he was happy and brought joy to the kids. But then, there were also the worst moments when he lost the job and he was mean and most of the time scattered the anger on his kids.

And they, Costel and Elena could not do anything. They just sat in a corner of the room with tears in their eyes waiting for their father to calm down and for better times to come. When he was too angry he used to raise the voice at them and even beat them out.

My cousins had a tragic childhood that fortunately for me, I can’t relate to, as my parents were kind and understanding with me. Until 8 years old I grew up with them and shared joy and sorrow together, by comforting one another when bad moments arrived.

And then, after the age of 8 my father decided to move out in our own home. It was a new journey for us, but unfortunately a storm for the cousins. In time, my parents used to invite them to our new home but they could only arrive for a short time, as the uncle found out and banned them from coming to us.

In the beginning, it was hard to imagine a childhood without them, being my best buddies and basically, the two familiar figures that I grew up with. I missed them a lot after that and tried to find new friends.

I could indeed, identify new friends in the meantime but they were not like them. Their kindness and sincerity were hard to find, and real friends don’t just appear out of the blue.

In time though, things changed a lot, I did for sure. And time flew away so fast that I could not even think. Costel and Elena finished school, unfortunately only the first mandatory classes because nobody was able to support them fully.

Elena got married and now she is happy at her home with 3 kids. Costel, unfortunately in his case the situation is different. He ended up performing the heavy works that his body could not sustain and because of the depression and sorrow from his father became an alcoholic.

The sad reality

Last year, on the same day, my uncle died. Today, his son Costel, died as well.
I have just received the bad news from my family. But it’s hard to process it and to think about it, because he was young, only 24. His friends found him dead in the house without any traces or evidence. Then the cops arrived and an investigation is currently conducted.

We don’t know yet if its the Virus or if it’s the other health issues that Costel managed to somehow get during his short lifetime. But I feel sad that I cannot be with him on his last journey as only 8 persons are allowed to go to the funeral, the situation being very strict with the lockdown and everything.

I am still trying to process the information and cannot believe that this happened. He was a good guy and always helped out persons in need, always being there when asked to.

I hope that God will take care of him in heaven and that he will be more at peace than here, on earth, where he had to struggle with his life. Rest in peace, dear soul! 😥

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Gabriel)

The Remembrance of the good done those we have loved is the only consolation when we have lost them.” – Demoustier