Song of the day 54#

Because guitar sounds so good in this song!

How to keep calm in stressful situations

Lately, the situations around me have been extremely stressful both at work and at home. So, in a short time, I came to become from a calm and extremely patient person, to an agitated one, anxious and ready to attack in the second two.

Now, since it is Saturday, a day of relaxation and rest before next week before Easter, I set out to make a change. I will focus on changing behaviors and reducing the vibrant stress that set in the last period.

Today I want to share with you, my dear readers, some of the methods I want to address in avoiding stress and keeping more calm as I possible can.


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What is stress?

Dex define: STRESS, stresses, (Med.) General term used for any environmental factor (trauma, emotion, cold, heat, etc.) capable of causing a state of tension and a reaction to the human, sometimes causing serious illnesses; p. ext. an unfavorable effect on the body of the beings by an environmental factor.

How to keep calm in stressful situations?

The fact that we are in a constant hurry to quench our energy. Work, everyday routine and unexpected situations make our patience and calm to the test, overwhelming us. Therefore, several important steps that we must follow in this case are:

Breathe and Expire. Breathe and expire deep 5 times. Imagine how all the tension disappears from your body after each expiration and smiles.
Relax. After the breath / expiration process, analyze your body and identify exactly which areas are embedded and tense. Slowly massage the affected areas and imagine yourself in a place that could calm you down: at the beach, in the mountains or even in a hot tub with water.
Do not get attached, just give up. As strange as it may seem, giving up a stressful situation is very often, indicated. Stressing and worrying will not improve the situation because you are already involved in the act. So keep your head up and give up, simply say No.
If you have a great goal, divide it into small successes. Always focusing on the end result can become exhausting because it takes a lot of time and patience. Stop focusing on negative thoughts. Being able to give you positive feedback will help you grow in patience, courage and find more joy in fulfilling a goal.
What would someone else do in this situation? Another way to avoid stress is to imagine what another person would do in this situation. Just ask yourself, what would „Z” do in this situation? „Z” can be anyone, your favorite hero from the last book read, the character most adored from a movie or even at some point in your life. Because „YOU” are strong.
Look at the picture as a whole. When you find yourself in a stressful situation, stop, breathe deeply. Ask yourself if you lose your temper now, this will still matter: next week, next month, over the next 10 years? The answer, you know it too, I know it, it will not matter to you! What’s the point of agonizing in a passenger pain that we probably will not remember next week?
Do not ask for the impossible! No one is perfect and it’s okay. Perfection has never existed, nor will it exist. Asking perfection from a person and even from you is stressful and impossible.
Put your patience to the test every day. You may be laughing because every day patience is being challenged by external factors. Why would we try to gamble with our luck? The answer is simple. As we practice, our patience will become more malleable and we will be able to react differently to the unknown, without stress and nerves, only with calm and perseverance.
Be present in TODAY. When you have many things to do and need to be active 24/24, both at work and at home, do not overstretch your thoughts and energy on tomorrow. You live today, you are present today in the actions today and that’s it. Because tomorrow will come anyway, and it does not make sense to think today for tomorrow and tomorrow for today.
Take care of yourself, and listen to your thoughts frequently. Around us, we are attacked everywhere in every direction, and in some cases there is no one around to give us the sense of comfort and safety. Plan more to take care of yourself. Respect your thoughts and desires, love yourself. If you love yourself enough then other persons will do it too.

Remember, dear reader, you are the sky… the rest of the things that are happening are only part of the weather.


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Cum sa iti pastrezi calmul in situatii stresante

In ultima vreme, situatiile intalnite din jurul meu au fost extrem de stresante atat la serviciu cat si acasa. Astfel, in scurt timp, am ajuns de la o persoana calma si extrem de rabdatoare, la o persoana agitata, nerabdatoare si pregatita de atac in secunda doi.

Acum, dat fiind ca este duminica, o zi de relaxare si odihna inaintea saptamanii viitoare dinaintea sarbatorilor pascale, mi-am pus in gand sa fac o schimbare. Voi pune accent pe schimbarea comportamentului si diminuarea stresului vibrant ce m-a cuprins in ultima perioada.

Astazi imi doresc sa impartasesc cu voi, dragi cititori, cateva dintre metodele pe care imi doresc sa le abordez in evitarea stresului si pastrarea calmului cat mai mult cu putinta.


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Ce este stresul?

Dexul defineste : STRES, stresuri, (Med.) Termen general utilizat pentru orice factor din mediu (traumatism, emotii, frig, caldura etc.) capabil sa provoace la om si la animale o stare de tensiune si o reactie de alarma a organismului, determinand uneori imbolnaviri grave; p. ext. efect nefavorabil produs asupra organismului fiintelor de un factor de mediu.

Cum sa ne pastram calmul in situatii stresante?

Faptul ca suntem intr-o graba constanta ne seaca de energie. Munca, rutina de zi cu zi si situatiile neasteptate ne pun rabdarea si calmul la incercare, coplesindu-ne complet. Asadar, cateva etape importante pe care trebuie sa le respectam in cazul de fata sunt:

  1. Respira si Expira. Respira si expira adanc de 5 ori. Imagineaza-ti cum toata tensiunea dispare din organismul tau dupa fiecare expirare si zambeste.
  2. Relaxeaza-te. Dupa procesul de respirare/expirare analizeaza-ti trupul si identifica exact ce zone sunt inclestate si tensionate. Maseaza incet zonele afectate si imagineaza-te intr-un loc ce te-ar putea calma: la plaja, la munte sau chiar intr-o cada fierbinte cu apa.
  3. Nu pune la suflet, renunta. Oricat de ciudat ar parea, sa renunti la o situatie stresanta este de foarte multe ori, indicat. Faptul ca te stresezi si te ingrijorezi nu vor ameliora situatia, deoarece esti deja implicat in act. Asadar, tine capul sus si renunta, spune Nu.
  4. Daca ai un tel maret, imparte-l in succese marunte. Sa te concentrezi mereu pe rezultatul final poate deveni obositor deoarece implinca mult timp si rabdare. Nu te mai concentra pe ganduri negative. Faptul ca iti oferi feedback pozitiv te va ajuta sa cresti in rabdare, in curaj si sa gasesti mai multa bucurie in indeplinirea unui tel.
  5. Ce ar face altcineva in locul meu? O alta modalitate de a te destresa este sa iti imaginezi ce ar face alta persoana in locul tau. Intreaba-te pur si simplu, ce ar face „Z” in situatia asta? „Z” poate fi oricine, eroul tau preferat din ultima carte citita, personajul mult adorat dintr-un film sau chiar tu intr-un anumit moment al vietii tale. Deoarece „TU” esti puternic.
  6. Priveste imaginea in ansamblu. Atunci cand te vei regasi intr-o situatie stresanta, opreste-te, respira adanc. Intreaba-te daca te vei pierde cu firea acum, acest lucru va mai conta: saptamana viitoare, luna viitoare, in urmatorii 10 ani? Raspunsul, il stii si tu, il stiu si eu, Nu va conta! Ce sens are sa ne agonizam intr-o durere pasagera ce probabil nu ne-o vom reaminti saptamana viitoare?
  7. Nu iti mai cere imposibilul! Nimeni nu este perfect si este in regula. Perfectiunea nu a existat niciodata, si nici nu va exista. Sa ceri permisiunea de la o persoana si chiar de la tine este stresant si imposibil.
  8. Pune-ti rabdarea la incercare in fiecare zi. Poate ca o sa razi, deoarece in fiecare zi rabdarea ne este pusa la incercare de factori externi. De ce am incerca sa ne hazardam? Raspunsul este simplu. Pentru ca exersand, rabdarea noastra va deveni mai maleabila si vom putea reactiona diferit la necunoscut, fara stres si nervi, doar cu calm si perseverenta.
  9. Fii prezent in ASTAZI. Atunci cand ai multe lucruri de facut si trebuie sa fii activ 24/24, atat la serviciu cat si acasa, nu iti mai suprasolicita gandurile si energia pe ziua de maine. Traiesti astazi, esti prezent astazi in actiunile de astazi si punct. Deoarece ziua de maine va veni oricum, si nu are sens sa gandesti astazi pentru maine si maine pentru astazi.
  10. Ai grija de tine, si asculta-ti gandurile frecvent. In jurul nostru suntem in fiecare zi atacati din toate directiile, si in unele cazuri nu exista nimeni in jur sa ne poata oferi sentimentul de confort si siguranta. Programeaza-ti mai mult pentru a avea grija de tine. Respecta-ti gandurile si dorintele, iubeste-te pe tine insuti. Daca tu te vei iubi indeajuns pe tine, atunci si ceilalti o vor face.

Tine minte, drag cititor, tu esti cerul… restul lucrurilor ce se intampla fac parte doar dintr-o vreme trecatoare.


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